49 year old woman with a 26 year old man. Is that cool? (dance, older)

[Bluesmama]

Admittedly, I have NEVER understood why anyone wants a mate or sweetheart way older (or younger) than themselves. NOT my thing.

I've known a few relationships/marriages like this. Some worked out, others didn't. To each his own.

[believe007]

See, as someone who's completely
at ease with it....
I find it strange that so many
people object to it.
I think it's ridiculous that
everything else is OK....
Most people don't think
twice about other unusual combinations-
Such as women who only date Asian men.
Or men who only want a certain
body type, etc.......

But a 40 something year old female
with a younger dude....
Still gets questioned

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by calipoppy

Perhaps those men just simply saw you as attractive and interesting.


I really don't understand why there is such a need to overthink younger men/older women connections. And I really don't understand why some women are acting as if they lose ALL sex appeal after age 30. I wish women would stop buying into to shriveled up old hag trope and just accept the attention as a positive thing.

So men should not stop buying into the shriveled up old hag trope and continue to dismiss older women?
Perhaps everyone should quit following the media's level of beauty and quit demanding so many perfect qualifications for each other before they can date let alone get married.

[kygman]

As long as they are good to each other what does it matter to anybody else? Leave them alone.

[MIKEETC]

Originally Posted by bingo3000

Would you accept that?

My acceptance of the relationship is irrelevant.

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[calipoppy]

Originally Posted by CSD610

So men should not stop buying into the shriveled up old hag trope and continue to dismiss older women?
Perhaps everyone should quit following the media's level of beauty and quit demanding so many perfect qualifications for each other before they can date let alone get married.

That wasn't my point. I am actually in agreement with you.

[49ersfan27]

Originally Posted by Bluesmama

Admittedly, I have NEVER understood why anyone wants a mate or sweetheart way older (or younger) than themselves. NOT my thing.

I've known a few relationships/marriages like this. Some worked out, others didn't. To each his own.

Older can be better

[NWGirl74]

At 42, I can't really see myself with someone in his 20's, but stranger things have happened.

I was contacted by a 28 year old last time I was on OKC. When I declined to meet him, he called me "prejudice." He was one of those that communication on his part consisted only of one sentences at a time. At least I got sentences. He contacted a friend of mine as well and all she got was one word answers.

[rcsteiner]

Originally Posted by Raena77

Um.......ewwww.

Not sure what specifically you're reacting to, but there's a saying I've taken to heart:

"Your kink is not my kink, but it's ok."

Works for relationships, too. An it harm none, do what ye will.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by NWGirl74

At 42, I can't really see myself with someone in his 20's, but stranger things have happened.

I was contacted by a 28 year old last time I was on OKC. When I declined to meet him, he called me "prejudice." He was one of those that communication on his part consisted only of one sentences at a time. At least I got sentences. He contacted a friend of mine as well and all she got was one word answers.

He didn't at least have the courtesy of giving you the compete word. He didn't want to throw in the "d" I guess.