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gentleblossom · 04-13-2016, 02:47 PM

Hi,
I would like to know if my boyfriend never compliments me and compliment on others like his coworkers, do you think that he doesn't love me? Are boyfriend suppose to compliment on his girlfriend?

jjrose · 04-13-2016, 02:48 PM

Have you asked him?

Posh90210 · 04-13-2016, 02:52 PM

Has he never complimented you or he just doesn't anymore? How did he get you to go out with him? He must have showered you with compliments when he was pursuing you.

oh-eve · 04-13-2016, 03:45 PM

It is pretty normal. Guys just assume you get compliments all the time or know you look good and just don't realize that we like to hear it.

Just because he doesn't constantly tell you how pretty you are doesn't mean he thinks you aren't attractive.

Actions count more than words, do you feel loved otherwise?

augiedogie · 04-13-2016, 04:06 PM

Words from many people don't mean a thing. How does he treat you? that's what really matters.

fleetiebelle · 04-13-2016, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by oh-eve

Actions count more than words, do you feel loved otherwise?

It's that love languages thing--some people just need to hear it said, and it's not necessarily needy or wrong.

CAOU812 · 04-13-2016, 04:13 PM

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Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

It's that love languages thing--some people just need to hear it said, and it's not necessarily needy or wrong.

Agreed. Some people really need the verbal validation. Others need other kinds of affection more. The OP should discuss this with their SO and let them know it means a lot to her to receive those kinds of words of affirmation.

gentleblossom · 04-13-2016, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Posh90210

Has he never complimented you or he just doesn't anymore? How did he get you to go out with him? He must have showered you with compliments when he was pursuing you.

Well he complimented me in the beginning but I don't see his compliments sincere at all. Then he stop complimenting me. I feel that if he likes someone he would compliment. For example, he compliments on the houses, other people, e.t.c. but why not me?

gentleblossom · 04-13-2016, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by jjrose

Have you asked him?

I rather he says it then I ask him as it shows more sincerity and truthfulness

rcsteiner · 04-13-2016, 05:24 PM

I believe a boyfriend should both compliment you and complement you. Sometimes it's nice to hear nice words from the person who is supposed to be into you.