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I kept my plans with him, so I don't see the problem. He said he had a great time.
Of course the date was awkward. Your thoughts were on someone else. Wouldn't be surprised if he sensed it as well. People tend to know when someone's thoughts are elsewhere. The now 3 date guy is definitely on thin ice.
Of course the date was awkward. Your thoughts were on someone else. Wouldn't be surprised if he sensed it as well. People tend to know when someone's thoughts are elsewhere. The now 3 date guy is definitely on thin ice.
No, I said the date with the other guy was a bit awkward since we haven't been in contact for a long time. It wasn't because my thoughts were on anyone else.
No, I said the date with the other guy was a bit awkward since we haven't been in contact for a long time. It wasn't because my thoughts were on anyone else.
Gaining clarity into any & all situations is what counts, but more so, moving forward with said clarity. + At least now you don't have to wonder about him anymore.
No, I said the date with the other guy was a bit awkward since we haven't been in contact for a long time. It wasn't because my thoughts were on anyone else.
THat poor guy, wasting his time and money on someone who wants to casually date. Tell him that youre dating others so he can know not to get too involved with you.
THat poor guy, wasting his time and money on someone who wants to casually date. Tell him that youre dating others so he can know not to get too involved with you.
Why do you assume that he doesn't want to casually date too? Regarding wasting his money, I paid for myself when we first met for coffee. On our second date, we had drinks and appetizers which he paid for, and I paid for the third date which was dinner and more expensive than the date that he paid for. So he hasn't spent all that much.
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Gaining clarity into any & all situations is what counts, but more so, moving forward with said clarity. + At least now you don't have to wonder about him anymore.
He asked me if I want to get together again, and I am hopeful but not confident that he will follow through. We'll see. I am pretty sure that the new guy wants to see me again though.
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I think of it as more of an alternate choice than a back up choice. I could go out with the guy who I haven't seen in a long time and realize that he's not as great as I thought which could then raise my interest level in the new guy. It would be premature to stop seeing him now just because I potentially have an interest in someone else. I'm sure lots of people have ended up marrying their second, third, fourth choice, etc. and I don't necessarily think that's a horrible thing. You don't always get your first choice in terms of finding a job, buying a house, etc. Why should relationships be any different?
Because they are completely different. It is a person, not a "thing". That you can even equate an item, or something you need to pay rent and eat to live, to a living, human, breathing, feeling human being just screams a ton about you: as in you don't give a crud about them as individuals or really care about people (other than your cat and parents), which has been obvious since I started reading your posts. It's all about you.
Because they are completely different. It is a person, not a "thing". That you can even equate an item, or something you need to pay rent and eat to live, to a living, human, breathing, feeling human being just screams a ton about you: as in you don't give a crud about them as individuals or really care about people (other than your cat and parents), which has been obvious since I started reading your posts. It's all about you.
I met these guys online and I don't really know them at this point. I feel like I care as much about them as they care about me right now.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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I met these guys online and I don't really know them at this point. I feel like I care as much about them as they care about me right now.
You don't have to know someone to treat someone with the respect owed anyone in the world, but I don't think you care for people much so you're probably consistent among everyone.
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