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IDK, I could never get behind dating more than one person at a time. (Of course, I never had a line of dating prospects vying for my affections anyway, so there's that). But the way I saw it, the same way I would never compete for a man's affection, I preferred to evaluate a potential mate on his own merit, now how he stacked up against the "competition". Either the connection was there and that is where my attention was directed, or I moved on.
I agree with you, word for word. Each person is individual and they have positives and negatives on their own, not by comparison to others.
My feeling is that you're not interested in the new guy if you reached out to an old one and have put the new guy off from plans already made.
My thought too. Consciously, it sounds like the OP is interested in New Guy, but subconsciously, not so much.
However, the real question was about double-booking and really the polite thing to do would be to keep the date with New Guy and ask the other to reschedule.
My thought too. Consciously, it sounds like the OP is interested in New Guy, but subconsciously, not so much.
However, the real question was about double-booking and really the polite thing to do would be to keep the date with New Guy and ask the other to reschedule.
It's just that we haven't talked in a few years and the opportunity for us to reconnect is fleeting, so I'd rather jump on it now. I feel like the new guy and I are on good enough terms right now that it shouldn't hurt for us to just reschedule for another day.
It's just that we haven't talked in a few years and the opportunity for us to reconnect is fleeting, so I'd rather jump on it now. I feel like the new guy and I are on good enough terms right now that it shouldn't hurt for us to just reschedule for another day.
It seems to me you've already made up your mind. In that case, given that it's already Friday, you should probably let New Guy know there's been a change in plans, if you haven't already.
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
I don't want to blow him off. I have enough time in my weekend to see both of them. I got the impression that he could maybe be flexible about changing the day, but I would at least give him sufficient notice.
Yes tell him straight that you've met someone else and don't wish to see him further?
I wouldn't necessarily include the "I've met someone else" part. I wouldn't particularly want to hear that from someone myself although I might assume it anyway.
I wouldn't necessarily include the "I've met someone else" part. I wouldn't particularly want to hear that from someone myself although I might assume it anyway.
Yeah I just feel it's a tad harsh on the other fella that's all, I'm not for one minute questioning you and your morals sugar so apologies if it comes across that way, but its not really nice which ever way you let him down as you're leading him up the " garden path " so to say.
It seems to me you've already made up your mind. In that case, given that it's already Friday, you should probably let New Guy know there's been a change in plans, if you haven't already.
Well, I want to wait a little while longer before I say anything to the new guy. There's still a chance that I can keep my plans with him.
Yeah I just feel it's a tad harsh on the other fella that's all, I'm not for one minute questioning you and your morals sugar so apologies if it comes across that way, but its not really nice which ever way you let him down as you're leading him up the " garden path " so to say.
I'm not jumping that far ahead to where I would have to choose between them. What if I just offer to pay for the rescheduled date? That would be nice, right?
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