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Old 04-23-2016, 05:37 AM
 
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It happens. Usually with more desperate people. They want something, so they are determined to only see what they want, and if a curve is thrown, they try to rationalize it so it still works out nicely for them in their head. People like this usually wake up with a hard kick in the pants from the object of their obsession.

OP suffers from limerence, it seems. It's a more perverse from of infatuation. Infatuation is normal, and most human beings feel it. But limerence is more an obsession with a person, almost stalker or groupie behavior. They're on your mind constantly, you're thinking about them, you want them, you wanna talk about them constantly, and you want them to want you as well. I liken it to a drug addiction. But instead of drugs, it's an addiction to a person. They're always on your mind, and when you don't get your dosage of them, you're restless, depressed, or almost going through withdrawal.

So the OP's drug is hot guys. When there's a guy that is hot, who pays her any attention, it doesn't take long for her to be head over heels for him. And because she falls for them before even knowing them, she makes excuses for who she wants them to be.
I have the same problem. I hope things work out for the OP.
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Old 04-23-2016, 05:42 AM
 
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I wanted validation from him because he was so good looking and I felt like if he liked me I must not be too terrible.
How can you not see that this right here is the root of all your problems?
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Old 04-23-2016, 11:10 AM
 
Location: California side of the Sierras
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I know I need to leave him be, and I'm going to. It just makes me sad to see someone so lost in life and he needs help without realizing it.
I was thinking the same thing, only not about him.
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Old 04-23-2016, 11:51 AM
 
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His friends are just like him. Their only concern is partying and what girl they can bang next... This guy I was seeing has multiple DUIs, jailtime, and he fights. Like he's banned from some of the bars in our area. His friends are the same.
So my tax dollars are paying these guys' salary and military benefits? Where do I complain?
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Old 04-23-2016, 12:18 PM
 
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When people show you who they are, believe them. You're not going to change this guy into Prince Charming.
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Old 04-27-2016, 10:33 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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Stop.


This.
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Old 04-28-2016, 02:04 PM
 
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