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Originally Posted by softcrunch
Do you still love your husband? How many percent are you in if FB guy did not happen?
Also, let your husband know you're not really comfortable getting intimate yet, at least not until you experienced enough trust to bond again. In case his way of trying to prove himself by being physical may repel you the more he tries.
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I do love him. He has many good qualities. I'm sure for everyone that has been married past the honeymoon stage has experienced episodes of ebb and flow.
My husband has some leadership issues. I am traditional in the sense that I think the man should be the head of the house. I need/crave for a man to establish dominance. No woman has trouble following a man, if she trusts his leadership over her life.
He hasn't in the past wanted to be the decision maker. He has never wanted the responsibility. I think if he would've put his foot down on some issues, certain things wouldn't have gone on. He's laid back and has more of an anything goes type of attitude.
If I disapprove of something and he doesn't, he will act like he disapproves.
Now to answer your question about the fb guy, he has been my friend for longer than I have been married. He has what my husband lacks and my husband has what he lacks. Its a catch 22 I guess. I crave certain this about this man because I have been without the traits he has. We have always had amazing chemistry.
Knowing the position I was in, I shouldn't have fallen into the old flame trap. It always looks better than it actually is. I had on my Rose colored classes. Its hard to see the other side of something you're in the middle of. But, without this man, my feelings wouldn't have changed towards my husband. I'm 100% on that. The old flame was just a soft place to lay my head (Eg Samson & Delilah) Have to be careful of those.