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I even asked my two friends on their opinion. I told them that because of my past experiences, I vowed to get a prenup, after I have had been taken advantage of in the past.
What? You LIVE AT HOME WITH YOUR PARENTS. No one has taken advantage of you.
Almost 200k. I was told by my friends though that that is not very much, and I am trying to make my assets out to be a lot more than they are. I am not Bill Gates as a couple of them agreed. Do you think I am doing so?
My gf also said that money comes and goes, l and I think too much of it, where as love is forever.
Love is not forever. It can be, but often times it isnt. Id be concerned about her cavalier attitude about YOUR money.
That may not be a lot of money to some people, but to others that amount is a life savings. I dont see any reason you shouldnt be concerned.
Remember a marriage is a contract about love, whereas a divorce is a financial transaction.
Id be concerned that she's so angry about this situation.
Definitely get that pre-nup! Cuz if I was your girl and found your post history on C-D, puttin all our personal business up in here ~ I'd totally leave your ass and take ev-ery-damn-thaaang, lol...
Friends aren't always the best people to ask. These concepts of love, marriage, and gender roles amount to religion for some people. I had a friend with very traditional, conservative beliefs about these things, and I couldn't even say that I wondered if marriage was right for me without getting his "Anathema!" gasp. Somebody with proper professional training and experience will better help you see if you're approaching marriage in a way that's true to you.
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My gf also said that money comes and goes, l and I think too much of it, where as love is forever.
Love isn't necessarily forever. For somebody who claims to be so adamant about it, she sure isn't putting forth any effort to sympathize with your concerns.
The vast majority of people who get a pre-nup aren't Bill Gates. Most people haven't saved anywhere near that amount of money. You know the effort you put into it.
I wonder if the $200K is the only issue here. Do you have doubts about her ability or willingness to contribute financially? Do you foresee her putting a strain on your efforts to be financially responsible, and her battling you whenever you pump the brakes on spending?
I wouldn't go through it, man. IF you were the bread winner and she puts up this much of a fight, then she wants that security that she'll take everything she can once the divorce is finalized. If you guys were making equal salary, then I would advise you to proceed with caution....
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I wouldn't go through it, man. IF you were the bread winner and she puts up this much of a fight, then she wants that security that she'll take everything she can once the divorce is finalized. If you guys were making equal salary, then I would advise you to proceed with caution....
Why do you keep posting this stuff? How in the world would discrepancies in salary matter?
If you two refuse to come to an agreement on the relationship terms then do not accept/settle for less. Do what makes you happy.
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