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To me it feels right. If I didn't approach women they would whine how I have "no balls".
Never understood why it has to make a guy lack balls, and why a guys Balls are a symbol of strength and power, remember what Betty White said about vaginas
They might...or they might not...not all women are this tough a crowd.
Nasty self-entitled "it girls" probably are. The average woman...well, I know an awful lot of women who are with quiet, shy men and happy.
You obviously have read some of the posts from the women on this forum they're so rude towards men who have never dated. Not you JerZ because I agree with a lot that you say. Just some people here are harsh and confrontational when it comes to this subject.
Because being passive is torture. Waiting is torture. It is stressful. I want to minimize stress, so I act, or choose not to act.
This is what I've heard from a lot of people (men more frequently than women): that passively waiting for someone approach takes away your choices.
It does and it doesn't...women certainly have our ways of making our wishes known and "encouraging" a proposal of a dinner date. We always have. We may not (always) be officially asking, "Would you like to go out with me?" but we're positioning ourselves in the immediate vicinity of our intended, dressing a certain way, smelling a certain way, initiating conversation, being verrrrrrrrrrrry interested...passivity isn't always 100% passive.
But it's personal choice, whichever way a person wishes to go, or both (someone who typically likes to be approached won't necessarily NEVER approach...ouch, the grammar, but you get the idea).
I don't really believe in the "Beta Male" myth. Some guys might be more extreme in that way, but I think most guys are probably closer to the middle. And human beings are all just actors anyway. I have always tended to have more luck aggressive females, but it's really because they are just easier. There is some attraction but not when they are too aggressive. I even like some who are quiet on the outside but more aggressive once you get to know them better. I have shown more Alpha traits when I am around a shyer woman that I am attracted to. But if she shows the slightest signs of rejection, then my confidence with her will usually die completely.
I doubt the OP's main issue is his shyness. I notice multiple things in his first post that strike me as just plain weird (and not the "good" kind of weird).
Gotta love these armchair psychologists that get off on insulting people for no good reason. If I'm in a situation where someone is socially awkward or comes across a bit weird, I will go out of my way to help make the person feel comfortable. Some people are just a**holes and prefer to beat the person down and treat them horribly. If you have to insult someone to feel better about yourself, what does that make you?
Like I said before, if I had good reference experience with women, then I feel very likely I would not be frustrated over having to be the approacher and initiator
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