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I don't know, honestly, I feel for the guy. Guys have no success in OLD; they're told to meet women IRL. They say that's hard, they're told to go where their peers are. They go where they're peers are, now they're basically creepers.
OP, you may be a little overzealous, so turn it down a notch. But I would imagine this IS how people in college meet - they walk up to one another. I hope you don't take this the wrong way but are you only reaching for the best-looking, most popular, etc. girls? If so, let's face facts. They are probably already seeing someone. Go for girls you find interesting in a variety of ways. I'm not saying you ARE doing this, just searching around a bit for possible reasons you haven't gotten any yeses at all.
Meanwhile, as I said, tone it down a notch. I'm guessing (again, could be wrong) just from your general tone here that you're perhaps a bit over-eager. Maybe start the conversation about something that's going on around the two of you, or a class you share or something, rather than launching right into asking whether they'll go out with you. And for the love of ham, boy, DON'T say "Well, will you take my number and ask any of your friends if they'd be interested?" because dear dog but that reeks of desperation. Why not say you'd love to be friends, she should look you up on (unmentionable social site) or something like that, THEN leave it alone? Tell her it was nice meeting her. If she does "Friend" you or whatever then you've just broadened your social circle.
I arrived to Fargo as a PhD student and currently searching for a girl to have relationship with. I searched extensively for girls in the University's Library and some in-campus locations.
I talked to more than 25 girls so far. Virtually all of girls keep telling me they either have boyfriends, dating, or otherwise have a crush. Do I search in the wrong location where girls are too busy studying and do not want interruptions? Some of these girls gave me their Facebook IDs and I noticed from their profiles that they indeed have boyfriends. The thing is that I ask most of them whether they have single friends that could be interested in dating and all of them (except one) gave negative answers.
Most of them were willing to get my phone number so that they set me up when they remember one of their colleagues who can be interested in dating. I wonder whether this is just to get rid of me peacefully or some women can be really willing to do so. Any comments are appreciated.
Yeah the initial reaction is they are letting you down politely.
Im not an expert on university campus life but maybe they don't want a boyfriend that's also onsite/studying etc ...... Like they don't want to mix business with pleasure sort of thing
Or they just don't find you attractive of course......LOL
I arrived to Fargo as a PhD student and currently searching for a girl to have relationship with. I searched extensively for girls in the University's Library and some in-campus locations.
I talked to more than 25 girls so far. Virtually all of girls keep telling me they either have boyfriends, dating, or otherwise have a crush. Do I search in the wrong location where girls are too busy studying and do not want interruptions? Some of these girls gave me their Facebook IDs and I noticed from their profiles that they indeed have boyfriends. The thing is that I ask most of them whether they have single friends that could be interested in dating and all of them (except one) gave negative answers.
Most of them were willing to get my phone number so that they set me up when they remember one of their colleagues who can be interested in dating. I wonder whether this is just to get rid of me peacefully or some women can be really willing to do so. Any comments are appreciated.
You sound kind of socially awkward. Unless you are unusually good looking or have superb social skills, you will not be able to cold hit girls in the library or most other locations at school.
You would do better to do things at school that will put you in repeated contact with girls and talk to them and get to know them a bit over time.
I personally prefer taking action now. Women who approach me get the shutdown fast because I'm not interested in women who approach men.
That saying is more of the unexpected nature to it not who actually approaches
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Go for girls you find interesting in a variety of ways. I'm not saying you ARE doing this, just searching around a bit for possible reasons you haven't gotten any yeses at all.
