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Old 05-13-2016, 05:34 AM
 
Location: Utica, NY
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Just curious to know. Would it be a deal breaker if a girl you were interested in suffered from depression and anxiety? What if sometimes she didn't feel up to going out or cancelled plans at the last minute? Could you be there for her on her down days and how would it affect your own mental state?

I think it is very hard to find people willing to date you if you have any form of mental illness. I try to date people who also have it, but I often end up with people who either make it worse or refuse to seek treatment.

What are your thoughts?
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Old 05-13-2016, 05:37 AM
 
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My thoughts are some will and others won't and there is nothing you can do to change that fact. So the best thing to do for yourself is to take your medication all the time, stay as healthy as possible, learn the triggers and how to deal with them, see where things go with whomever you are dating.
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Old 05-13-2016, 05:38 AM
 
Location: The Netherlands
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I think it is hard. But some one who has huge tolerance can do that but no one can force any one to stay healthy or be positive.
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Old 05-13-2016, 05:59 AM
 
Location: United States
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It would be quite challenging for many to cope with. Personally, I would avoid involvement because I am confident that the impact it would have on my mental state would not benefit either party in the relationship. A prospective partner must be fully invested and supportive or just avoid such situations entirely. It is always better to be candid from the start.
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Old 05-13-2016, 06:07 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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I think, dating should be the last thing on a person's mind who's suffering from any kind of mental illness that isn't under control.
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Old 05-13-2016, 06:11 AM
 
Location: rural south west UK
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Just curious to know. Would it be a deal breaker if a girl you were interested in suffered from depression and anxiety? What if sometimes she didn't feel up to going out or cancelled plans at the last minute?
simple answer......yes it would.
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Old 05-13-2016, 06:15 AM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Depends on how serious. There are no absolutes with issues like this.
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Old 05-13-2016, 06:16 AM
 
Location: Chicago
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Most people involved in dating suffer from mental illness anyway, so why not?
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Old 05-13-2016, 07:10 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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I need people that are reliable. Last minute cancelations don't happen twice with me.
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Old 05-13-2016, 07:14 AM
 
Location: NY
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I think, dating should be the last thing on a person's mind who's suffering from any kind of mental illness that isn't under control.
This here. Anyone wondering if someone would date them while they suffer from depression and anxiety probably is not ready to be out and dating anyway. To meet quality people, date them, and build relationships takes confidence and respect for oneself, which is more or less the opposite mental state of depression and anxiety.


Focus first on getting treatment for the mental condition, and when that has been accomplished refocus on dating and building a relationship. Then there is no worry about whether you are dateable anymore.
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