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Well to me it's just a case of you married the wrong person and you need to get a divorce. Pretty simple really. I wouldn't be surprised if your husband sensed you still had feelings for ex bf and he just lost interest.
Well to me it's just a case of you married the wrong person and you need to get a divorce. Pretty simple really. I wouldn't be surprised if your husband sensed you still had feelings for ex bf and he just lost interest.
I married a passive man. He did not do much chasing at all. He said he preffered to be chased. In my opinion, I think men are bred/born to chase whether they are laid back or more assertive, right?
No. You couldn't be more wrong.
The only reason men pursue is because of socialization. Some men are "bred" to pursue, and some parents simply aren't involved in that socialization at all.
If they do not get that socialization at home, they MIGHT get it in society in their day to day dealings with women. MIGHT. Because in this day and age of passive aggressive behaviors like relying on text messages and going after women on social media as a working strategy for men expectations are rather low. You married him. You already knew how he was so I'm not sure why you're surprised.
I never chased. Shy I guess, or as mom used to say, "bashful." Didn't hurt me as I had a soul mate for 47 years until death parted us.
It's never hurt me either. I've always been the first to initiate, and I've expressed my feelings right away and let her know how I feel. From then on, the ball is in her court. I've never chased for some indefinite period of time. If I didn't hear anything, I just assumed they were not interested and moved on.
When I was young I kinda shy and passive but I was good looking so girls went out of there way to introduce themselves to me and basically do all the work. I mean even older women use to hit on me lol.
I was almost in the position of the average woman in the sense that all I had to do was simply say yes or no thank you and didn't have to put myself out there. Soon after I became more aggressive and confident person which expanded my options even more. But I would never advise any guy to sit back and wait for things to come to him. I have no doubt in my mind that if I was ugly or even average I would've been a virgin till I was 20.
When I was young I kinda shy and passive but I was good looking so girls went out of there way to introduce themselves to me and basically do all the work. I mean even older women use to hit on me lol.
I was almost in the position of the average woman in the sense that all I had to do was simply say yes or no thank you and didn't have to put myself out there. Soon after I became more aggressive and confident person which expanded my options even more. But I would never advise any guy to sit back and wait for things to come to him. I have no doubt in my mind that if I was ugly or even average I would've been a virgin till I was 20.
Yeah, I definitely would not encourage a guy to sit back and not do anything. The chances of him dating are slim to none in that case. On the other hand, chasing someone endlessly seems desperate and pathetic to me, if not stalkerish. I was also passive when I was younger. I asked several girls in high school and got turned down. I was also chubby and didn't have much confidence. Losing the weight and hitting the gym hard did wonders for me.
Whatever works for you.. I just will never understand people who think all men should think and act exactly the same way and have the same wants and needs and women the same.. People are different even amongst the same gender as hard as that is for you to believe
The degrading and name calling of men who don't act how you want doesn't come of well either.. It makes somebody seem like a child who's stomping their feet and asking all men to act the way she wants to make her life easier..
Yes, I think men chase but women lead. But I know a case when a woman chased and it ended up in a divorce. She also earned a lot of money and he took half of it.
Nice timid thread here even though OP threw a type of man under the bus.
This is and the other one that centered around a poster will be a few I remember. Glad I don't spend a whole lot of time here anymore.
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