Are there more interracial relationships/mixing? (non-black, men, loyalty, husband)

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by Emmywho

I don't know about the stats, but this white girl finds black guys very, very attractive. My last boyfriend was black and we had some times.

Is it because he has MORE to offer than white men generally do? LOL. You're entitled to do/think what you like, but that would be the sorry basis for a relationship.

Obviously, you say "last" boyfriend, meaning it ended. What broke it apart, if you care to share? And are you continuing to date black men or are you mixing and matching?

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by trmaoy

however, for those who say they only wish to date someone of another race, I question whether they have some self-hate issues.

I totally agree. I wonder if the other people "wash away" something about oneself that they don't like or, like one of the above posts said, it gets them respect, so they've climbed a notch. Get real.

I was friends with a Venezuelan mulata girl. She was a real head case. She was so self-conscious about her ethnic make-up, that she only chose to date Anglo guys. She would not even date a non-ethnic looking Hispanic, simply because they were Hispanic. The problem is that most Anglo guys were not interested in her.

Interracial dating does not work for me because it has to do with taste. I am Italian. I like Italian women most of all. There aren't enough of them...in the NY area, I feel like I'm in a candy store. Why? They're "just right." Not too dark and not too light (like a Nordic blonde chick)...I think they offer a nice blend of features and generally are very emotive.

No self-hatred here. I like my own race/ethnicity very much.

[Shsanmakat]

Ok for those of you dating white women because of what you see some black women doing on the T.V, TURN THE TELEVISION OFF!!!!!! Please understand that when a black woman see's her black brother with a white cousin, do not assume it is because we are bitter, KNOW that it is because first and foremost we respect more than any other, what you have to go through day to day and want to support you in that, KNOW that it is because we have seen you beautiful men and appreciate how you wear a suit better than any other, how you move and smell and we as your black sisters want to be with that to. If you say that you don't date us because of the attitudes you say we sometimes have, you have not met me, if you say that we don't take care of ourselves, only want someone to take care of us, or don't have our stuff together, you have not met me, if you say that we don't know how to act in relationships and carry too much drama, you have not met me and dare I say to all of the above, you have not met most of my black sisters looking for the family she knows she deserves to have. If you say you are dating another PERSON because she or he is wonderful, good to you, or the only person you know you want to be with, I have no problem, but when you date simply because that's Vogue for you,or you will have more respect , shame on you. From what I see there is too much that you will do for the white girlfriend than you will for the black. If she's black and out of shape, no look, white and out of shape second look, you'll push her baby carriage and walk ahead of ours. If this is not you fine, but if it is, why. If you disagree with what I've written I would love to hear why the white women are so attractive.

[wclac]

Originally Posted by Shsanmakat

Ok for those of you dating white women because of what you see some black women doing on the T.V, TURN THE TELEVISION OFF!!!!!! Please understand that when a black woman see's her black brother with a white cousin, do not assume it is because we are bitter, KNOW that it is because first and foremost we respect more than any other, what you have to go through day to day and want to support you in that, KNOW that it is because we have seen you beautiful men and appreciate how you wear a suit better than any other, how you move and smell and we as your black sisters want to be with that to. If you say that you don't date us because of the attitudes you say we sometimes have, you have not met me, if you say that we don't take care of ourselves, only want someone to take care of us, or don't have our stuff together, you have not met me, if you say that we don't know how to act in relationships and carry too much drama, you have not met me and dare I say to all of the above, you have not met most of my black sisters looking for the family she knows she deserves to have. If you say you are dating another PERSON because she or he is wonderful, good to you, or the only person you know you want to be with, I have no problem, but when you date simply because that's Vogue for you,or you will have more respect , shame on you. From what I see there is too much that you will do for the white girlfriend than you will for the black. If she's black and out of shape, no look, white and out of shape second look, you'll push her baby carriage and walk ahead of ours. If this is not you fine, but if it is, why. If you disagree with what I've written I would love to hear why the white women are so attractive.

I find them attractive because I would like to try something different. I just prefer women with light complections.

[jhlcomp]

Eventually we will become one race .. all in time. I won't be alive by then, but I certainly would love to see how the dynamics change. Wouldn't it be a wonderful place if racism didn't exist? Ok - so I dream - but I remain hopeful.

[Shsanmakat]

LAFAN Does light complection have to mean white?, and Different from what? I have to say I don't think you are dating other races for the right reasons, and honestly I think you should be careful you sound like you could get yourself in some trouble, while you are trying something different people's feelings are getting involved and you may start a rep for yourself you don't want.

[wclac]

Originally Posted by Shsanmakat

LAFAN Does light complection have to mean white?, and Different from what? I have to say I don't think you are dating other races for the right reasons, and honestly I think you should be careful you sound like you could get yourself in some trouble, while you are trying something different people's feelings are getting involved and you may start a rep for yourself you don't want.

There are plenty of reasons why I would like to date outside my race.

[trmaoy]

Originally Posted by LAFan

There are plenty of reasons why I would like to date outside my race.

I'm confused. I thought maybe you had met someone that you found to be nice. But it sounds like you got up one day and declared, "I'm going to date outside my race." Perhaps you could elaborate on your reasons. To choose to not want to date someone of your own race, and instead look for someone of another race, sounds like you have negative stereotypes about your race. But dating outside your race is going to nothing to relieve yourself of that. In fact, only when you start seeking out and discovering the beautiful women like your mother, aunts, cousins etc. will you be able to show the world how great your people are.

There is good and bad in all races.

[wclac]

Originally Posted by trmaoy

I'm confused. I thought maybe you had met someone that you found to be nice. But it sounds like you got up one day and declared, "I'm going to date outside my race." Perhaps you could elaborate on your reasons. To choose to not want to date someone of your own race, and instead look for someone of another race, sounds like you have negative stereotypes about your race. But dating outside your race is going to nothing to relieve yourself of that. In fact, only when you start seeking out and discovering the beautiful women like your mother, aunts, cousins etc. will you be able to show the world how great your people are.

There is good and bad in all races.

I don't have stereotypes of my kind. Well, I used to live with my mother a whole lot, and sister.

I been attracted to other girls for a long time, since I have been attending diverified schools for the most.

[carrot juice]

Interracial mixing? As long as people live together, they will be making babies.