Are there more interracial relationships/mixing? (girl, husbands, kids, attractive)

[yayoi]

I find it odd that people are so color struck. The main thing I look at is a person's character, personality, beliefs etc. Not their race.

[Triniman]

Just because soemone dates someone of another race doesn`t necessarily mean that they won`t date someone of their own race so stop branding ppl. It just means that they will also consider or not limit themselves to only one type of race. Besides, that`s their business and preference. Why do ppl always try to analyze andwonder or claim to know why ppl date interracially? Get over it. Worry about yourselves.

[Emmywho]

When I hear people talking about only wanting to date in their own race, I picture a mother yelling at her kid to stay out of the deep end of the gene pool. Limiting yourself to one race is the same as only hanging out in the shallow end of the gene pool wearing water wings and a diving mask.

Diversity is a good thing in genetics. I think it's one reason that we typically find mixed-race people so attractive.

[Emmywho]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

Is it because he has MORE to offer than white men generally do? LOL. You're entitled to do/think what you like, but that would be the sorry basis for a relationship.

Obviously, you say "last" boyfriend, meaning it ended. What broke it apart, if you care to share? And are you continuing to date black men or are you mixing and matching?

Doing what I like is a sorry basis for a relationship? Hmm, I never considered dating someone because there was something about them that I didn't like. Maybe I should try. Do you want to go out sometime?

We broke up because I went one way to go to grad school and he went the other for a job in Munich.

[pola1206]

Originally Posted by yayoi

I find it odd that people are so color struck. The main thing I look at is a person's character, personality, beliefs etc. Not their race.

SCREW RACE!!! I care if they have a good credit score!!! I suggest people start screening their significant others like insurance companies do their clients. I don't need anyone bringing me down!!!!

[butterbiscuits]

Originally Posted by ProLogic

I've usually only dated White girls. I'm Mexican, dating a white women earns me big respect from my buddies

Please elaborate... Wait a minute...don't bother...

Back to the topic at hand....it's sad that this topic is even an issue, hopefully one day it won't matter (yeah right). What I would like to see is more black women dating white/non-black men too just because I don't see this as much and we as a whole (okay I'm SO generalizing here...) are more "loyal" to black men and don't typically jump ship as easy. I wonder why this is? I for one, have no such loyalty. I definitely would not limit my choices if I saw someone of another race that I wanted to date.

I just think that in the media as a whole there's just not enough love from men for the black woman. It's like we are at the low end of the totem pole. I guess that goes back to slavery and blacks being seen as second class citizens - and if you're black AND a woman well....there ya go.....not the tastiest of cuts i guess, "media - speaking" that is.

I know there's plenty of love for the black woman. I just wish it was widely recognized in the media, like the love for white/non-black women are. JMO...

[butterbiscuits]

Originally Posted by trmaoy

My best friend lives in Orlando and black male/white female couples are VERY prevalent. To the point where a black woman may feel discouraged. Personally, I don't have a problem with it because I support diversity, however, for those who say they only wish to date someone of another race, I question whether they have some self-hate issues.

YOU, my friend, are getting a rep point from me! That is the "rating post positively right"? eh...i'm new at this....

[SeattlitefromNC]

Originally Posted by butterbiscuits

Please elaborate... Wait a minute...don't bother...

Back to the topic at hand....it's sad that this topic is even an issue, hopefully one day it won't matter (yeah right). What I would like to see is more black women dating white/non-black men too just because I don't see this as much and we as a whole (okay I'm SO generalizing here...) are more "loyal" to black men and don't typically jump ship as easy. I wonder why this is? I for one, have no such loyalty. I definitely would not limit my choices if I saw someone of another race that I wanted to date.

I just think that in the media as a whole there's just not enough love from men for the black woman. It's like we are at the low end of the totem pole. I guess that goes back to slavery and blacks being seen as second class citizens - and if you're black AND a woman well....there ya go.....not the tastiest of cuts i guess, "media - speaking" that is.

I know there's plenty of love for the black woman. I just wish it was widely recognized in the media, like the love for white/non-black women are. JMO...

Don't wait for the media to validate your sense of well-being.

Trust me: media, in its current incarnation, primarily exists to entertain (this is especially true in the US, where even CNN now hosts Oprah.com tidbits and articles about relationships ... *gag*). The media doesn't give one whit about your well-being as a woman or a black woman, so it is best to get yourself on a media diet (i.e., throw out those magazines and don't look at TV) and learn to love yourself.

Once you get your confidence in order, the men will follow. I have had no trouble dating because my confidence is not built on another person's approval.

[another_hot-day]

Originally Posted by Emmywho

When I hear people talking about only wanting to date in their own race, I picture a mother yelling at her kid to stay out of the deep end of the gene pool. Limiting yourself to one race is the same as only hanging out in the shallow end of the gene pool wearing water wings and a diving mask.

This could very well be the lamest post I have ever read.

[butterbiscuits]

Originally Posted by SeattlitefromNC

Don't wait for the media to validate your sense of well-being.

Trust me: media, in its current incarnation, primarily exists to entertain (this is especially true in the US, where even CNN now hosts Oprah.com tidbits and articles about relationships ... *gag*). The media doesn't give one whit about your well-being as a woman or a black woman, so it is best to get yourself on a media diet (i.e., throw out those magazines and don't look at TV) and learn to love yourself.

Once you get your confidence in order, the men will follow. I have had no trouble dating because my confidence is not built on another person's approval.

I hate to admit it but what the media does or doesn't do, does bother me. Although, I don't let it guage my self-worth, I would lying if I said it didn't have an effect on some level.

I already snagged me a husband (12 glorious..well..good..lol) so I don't think I have a problem in the confidence area, but it's definitely something to mindful of especially when rearing my girls.