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I know this isn't popular but I feel men should approach women not the other way around. I have been hit on and I found it unappealing and lost interest in seconds. This is how I feel. I don't want to be pursued by any woman tbh.
Probably because you have plenty of good references while I don't so I guess it's supposed to make sense
I have hung out in neighborhoods with a lot of single men, especially IT workers, and I have picked up on a trend.
You have to take into consideration of the fact that you specified "IT workers". Ask yourself- why did you specify their career fields? And in doing so, one may consider the "technical vs social skills" involved in IT work. Engineers and technical fields that require close attention to working in tight confined work spaces are often, not always, done by less than social types.
IT folk are some of most non-social people I know- and for good reason. They are very heady types that are engaged in information technology and computers. They don't have time to be hanging around offices and socializing with folk. Same how many cops come off as arrogant- it's the line of work that creates a perception.
this is what I mean by having a reference, I feel that's the main reason why I never liked the gender role that us guys are expected to approach and make the first move, be the initiator, because if you don't have a reference, it's hard to not take rejection personally, i'd imagine that's why so many guys out there have no problems being assertive or aggressive action-takers, go-getters, pursuers, approach a lot of women and initiate with them, and don't get bothered by rejection because they have a reference, they have had girlfriends already, it's like the equivalent of applying for a job and you have already worked in that certain field before but when you get turned down from the job, it doesn't hurt you as much, hopefully you get the point i'm making, it's just very hard to put into words, so if I had a girlfriend before, then theres a good chance I wouldn't feel this way about that gender role
this is what I mean by having a reference, I feel that's the main reason why I never liked the gender role that us guys are expected to approach and make the first move, be the initiator, because if you don't have a reference, it's hard to not take rejection personally, i'd imagine that's why so many guys out there have no problems being assertive or aggressive action-takers, go-getters, pursuers, approach a lot of women and initiate with them, and don't get bothered by rejection because they have a reference, they have had girlfriends already, it's like the equivalent of applying for a job and you have already worked in that certain field before but when you get turned down from the job, it doesn't hurt you as much, hopefully you get the point i'm making, it's just very hard to put into words, so if I had a girlfriend before, then theres a good chance I wouldn't feel this way about that gender role
Coffee is for closers. You've never closed, so no coffee.
Coffee is for closers. You've never closed, so no coffee.
I don't understand that metaphor, but I feel that's a good reason as to what I said
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