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I used to say I'd never cut my hair again, but I lied. I recently cut it off from 1/2 way down my back to a chin length shag. I'm not sure my husband likes it, but I didn't ask him. I like it. If I wasn't sure, I bet I'd be asking him constantly to reassure myself. He loves me for me, not because of my hair, which is a very small part of who I am.
Most people wouldn't ask a generalized question like: "what do you think about me getting my hair cut short". They'd say, "I'm thinking of getting a radically short haircut. What do you think about a crew cut?"
It seems like she knew you wouldn't like it, and was deliberately avoiding having an honest discussion, OP. How has she been otherwise with communication skills? Is she always upfront and honest?
Idea: why not say something like, "Honey, the important thing is that you like it". This would open the door for her to break down crying and say she hates it and regrets doing it, or to say that she does like it, and wishes you did, too. It's one way to find out if she likes it without triggering a defensive reaction. If she says she's not happy with it, you can reassure her that it's not a big deal and will grow longer soon enough.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 06-09-2016 at 10:05 PM..
Yep. If I honestly cared about my spouse's input on my hair, I'd show him a picture of the look I'm going for and say, "I'm thinking of this, do you think it would be a good move?" I wouldn't give a vague, "I'm going to cut my hair, do you think that would be okay?"
Read several posts where the authors said to tell her "It looks great!" or something similar. This is the ONLY answer. Girls don't cut or style their hair for you, they cut it for each other. Now act like a man and go do some major sucking up to get back in her good graces.
Read several posts where the authors said to tell her "It looks great!" or something similar. This is the ONLY answer. Girls don't cut or style their hair for you, they cut it for each other. Now act like a man and go do some major sucking up to get back in her good graces.
I get your point, but guys shouldn't have to lie and say it looks great if they don't think it does. Honestly, women could probably tell if you're lying anyways.
I LOVE long hair on women, and if my future SO had cut it short, I would be disappointed.
I get your point, but guys shouldn't have to lie and say it looks great if they don't think it does. Honestly, women could probably tell if you're lying anyways.
I LOVE long hair on women, and if my future SO had cut it short, I would be disappointed.
So there are things you lie to your spouse about. If your spouse gains some weight you don't tell him/ her that he/ she is fat. Bad idea. If your spouse starts to sag, which is inevitable, you say that she is still beautiful. When people truly love each other they actually mean it. I think modern couples need to remember that you married someone and promised to love for better or for worse. I think the OP and his wife are dealing with another set of issues, not a hairstyle.
I'm glad you didn't lie and you let her know the truth. She sees it too but feels so bad because the cut looks horrible on her. Your job now is to make her feel ok and that you love her no matter what but hey, let's grow that hair out again and stop it with the butch cuts. It's just a blip on the screen if she's cool with that.
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