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I'm more like Dissenter. I would say I am more of a beta male. Though I'm not truly submissive. In a relationship I would not want either one to be dominate; we should be equal. Perhaps one dominates in some areas and the other dominates in others, but ultimately it should be an equal partnership where we talk things through and come to mutual agreements.
What's crazy today is that so many women that are also dominant pick alpha males for mates. Alpha males typically pick submissive partners even friends to be with.
Dominant women never picks a submissive male, it's the nature of male and female roles.
Yep. And it seems to be very popular on tv these days with wussy men being married to dominant and /or controlling wives.
Carrie x Doug
Debra x Ray
Monica x Chandler
Rachel x Ross
Lilith x Frasier
Darlene x David
Roseanne x Dan -the latter isn't a wuss. But Roseanne's got him pretty whipped.
lol
A very popular tropes on television. And I am sure it happens in real life as well where the woman is more dominant and the man is more submissive.
A very popular tropes on television. And I am sure it happens in real life as well where the woman is more dominant and the man is more submissive.
In the vast majority of couples that I've met in real life where the woman is dominant and the man is submissive, the man could hardly be described as "wussy".
In the vast majority of couples that I've met in real life where the woman is dominant and the man is submissive, the man could hardly be described as "wussy".
With the "wuss" mention, I as strictly talking about the trope of television.
But not all across the board.
So no. I don't think all dominant women only go for top dog men. More submissive men may be with dominant women as well.
Someone mentioned most of what they see balances out. A more forward and leader type of person will be with someone who is more submissive, or shy. Seems like a good balance.
With the "wuss" mention, I as strictly talking about the trope of television.
But not all across the board.
Gotcha. No, I didn't think that you were generalizing, but considering the generalizations and stereotypes that have been popping up on this thread and elsewhere, I just wanted to make mention of what actually does happen in real life.
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So no. I don't think all dominant women only go for top dog men. More submissive men may be with dominant women as well.
And, dominant women can be with equally dominant women, dominant men can be with submissive men, etc., etc.
Someone mentioned most of what they see balances out. A more forward and leader type of person will be with someone who is more submissive, or shy. Seems like a good balance.
Again, I'm not trying to correct you personally here at all. Your comment just brought up something that I wanted to mention.
"Submissive" is by no means necessarily synonymous with meek, mousy, doormat, or yes, wussy.
Also, someone being more forward, or more of an extrovert, does not mean that they would be in a "dominant role". By the same token, shyness is not a universal trait of a submissive person. Just from my own personal experience, one would be hard-pressed to determine who was the leader in a relationship solely by looking at where they are on the introversion/extroversion spectrum.
My partner has a very high degree of respect for me. We wouldn't be together otherwise.
That we have chosen to have a relationship dynamic where he has final authority doesn't mean, by any stretch, that I don't have a voice that is respected.
And, yes, he absolutely respects my boundaries- which is why I have trusted him enough to be in such a dynamic with him.
What works for you won't necessarily work for everyone else. I'm sure you know that already.
When we have a problem we speak about it. I give my input, and if I think he is wrong, I will most certainly say so. And, you know what, it has not happened that I have felt that his final decision on big things has been "stupid".
We're not suffering. Thanks for your concern though.
I guess I missed the memo where you were named the ultimate arbiter of all things relationship.
I said on my earlier post on this thread:
Women are very different in their characters and some women wants to be leaded. And then some women don't. Most important thing to learn from other gender is to get to know her or him as individual. Men are not all same, women are not all same.
This means I speak from my view of point and set my rules and introduce them and you are very fine to introduce yours. I don't care how submissive you want to be, that is your life. Crawl and serve as much as you want. Let him dominate, master and lead you, believe what you want. You choose for you, I choose for me. You don't have to like mine and I certainly don't have to like yours.
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No, I didn't think that you were generalizing, but considering the generalizations and stereotypes that have been popping up on this thread and elsewhere, I just wanted to make mention of what actually does happen in real life. 