Should anyone ever expect to have sex on the first date? (single, clothes)

[Londoncowboy30]

Originally Posted by Leisesturm

I know. I was just having some fun at Cowboy's expense. I hope he can find it in his great britanic heart to forgive and forget.

lol well duh! lmao

[wall st kid]

Originally Posted by CosmoStars

What do you guys think?
Should anyone ever expect sex on the first date?

only if this isn't a person you really want to see again....if that makes sense.

[Larry Siegel]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

I'm sorta confused, one minute it's women who put out quickly is good, then the next minute they aren't, then the narrative changes, then the *****/Madonna thing is flipping faster than I care to recall or remember???

Let me know when it's ok for adults to just do what adults figure out whatever fits their needs.

I'll weigh in then.....

No, it's good. Forget everything else you've read here. It's fine. :-)

[Lostandhurt]

Maybe people my age (22) are a little bit different than older generations.

For me and most of my friends the question isn't how many dates should we go on before having sex. It's how many times do we have sex until we are dating.

Maybe that's just a college mindset.

[Runninglikethieves]

You should never expect it or anything to happen really.

It can be achieved. I think I could have done it a couple years ago with a girl. It wasn't exactly our first date, it was just the first time we hung out in a non public place though. Her interest level was fortunately very high and this did not turn her off, outside of that night. It was forgotten about the next day.

I spent 3 maybe 4 hours talking to her about hockey, which I'm very passionate about and have been since a little kid, and it's the only sport I follow. It was even the offseason at the time, but I wound up going on and on about it for hours. She was pretty interested for the first 3.5 hour too, but became annoyed by the last half hour. Then she politely made up some excuse to get me to go home. All the while I was talking non stop about it, she was dropping me hints to get physical with her and I wasted hours talking about something she didn't care about at all. I did eventually hook up with her the next time I saw her.

I did have sex on the first "non public" date with my fiancé. It was almost ruined by my mom's boyfriend, who is always drunk and walked in about 5 minutes before and I was paranoid he would come in again. He actually did come in about another 5-10 minutes after we finished. I doubt he knew what had happened though. I had to stay at my mom's house while visiting and slept in my brother's (who was not living there then) room. After that happened, I pretty much threw some money together and got a hotel room for the rest of my stay. She kept telling me over and over that she had never had sex with anyone else in her past that quickly after starting to see them. Like she didn't want me to think she was really easy or something. I assured her that I didn't care.

[CosmoStars]

Originally Posted by wall st kid

only if this isn't a person you really want to see again....if that makes sense.

Don't some people have sex on the first date then end up gettin married is that not the norm?

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by CosmoStars

Don't some people have sex on the first date then end up gettin married is that not the norm?

Some people do, sure.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Pitt Chick

Expect?
Only if you agreed on the price beforehand.

This. It would be an odd expectation to have, otherwise. And yet, some men do. I've never known a woman who did.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by CosmoStars

Don't some people have sex on the first date then end up gettin married is that not the norm?

Yes, but they (maybe one of them, but not both of them) didn't go into that date expecting sex, which is what your OP question was.

[hawaiiancoconut]

I admit, I sometimes expect to have sex on the first date. But expecting it and getting it are two different things.