Is Anyone Ever Satisfied In a Relationship?

[david0966]

1. Some may be. However, I think more aren't picky enough which might explain the grass is greener thing. Too many people just jump from one dysfunctional relationship to another. I've found I've become more picky with age, and it's worked very well for me.

2. Again, depends on the person. Some people just desire casual, temporary relationships and there is nothing wrong with that provided both are on the same page. I would consider myself very happy. While my G/F is not perfect (and neither am I), I feel I am a much better person with her in my life.

3. Of course not, that's way too much pressure to put on another person. That's what other friends are for. You should also be able to meet a lot of your needs on your own.

[49ersfan27]

I have been with my girlfriend (who was my childhood best friend) for almost 3 months now. I know it's a short time compared to many of everyone's relationships here but I have no plans to stray at all. This is the happiest I have been in awhile with a woman.

[Mikala43]

People by nature are not always happy with things. It's what has driven us forward to inventions and civilization.

Maturity lets you realize happiness is not something you will have every minute of every day.

Sometimes I just wake up in a bad mood, no reason, just cranky. Sometimes I am happy when things are falling apart, not because they are, but because I realize it's minor to the big picture.

It's the same when I view my spouse. I love him, but sometimes we are not happy with each other. But we care so we work on fixing it.

There is no one person that will ever meet my needs.

[TabulaRasa]

I lived with somebody when I was 30-35 who firmly believed dissatisfaction was humanity's natural state, and, moreover, that if you were happy with your life, it was probably because you were an ambitionless zero with no goals, or just a stupid person who couldn't recognize that life=being horribly dissatisfied.

It made him a lot of fun to be around.

[inspireme92]

relationships are all about compromise and putting in hard work/ effort.

[wizdum]

1. Are people too picky in relationships and just have the grass is greener syndrome?

Many people are self-involved and shallow now. It's the social atmosphere of constant comparison due to social media and the availability of porn have left many addicted with unrealistic desires.

2. Can anyone just be happy in one relationship without wanting something/someone else?
It really depends on the person. One must think of a relationship as an investment and something worth working at. They need to want to connect on a deep level with another being and enjoy the journey.

3. Most important, do you think one person can meet all of your needs?

Yes, because my needs are simple. I want to be loved by someone I respect and love. That feeds my passion and never gets old even when I get old.

[neutrino78x]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

I lived with somebody when I was 30-35 who firmly believed dissatisfaction was humanity's natural state, and, moreover, that if you were happy with your life, it was probably because you were an ambitionless zero with no goals, or just a stupid person who couldn't recognize that life=being horribly dissatisfied.

I agree with him to a certain extent. Like Wesley said in the movie The Princess Bride -- one of my favorite movies -- "life IS pain, Your Highness. Anyone who says differently is selling something." lmao

On the other hand, I have a lot of problems in my life...financial, logistical, lack of romantic relationships...and I find happiness many times. My default state is neutral, but I am happy perhaps 40% of the time. Life is up and down. Things happen.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by TabulaRasa

Unlikely, but I guess it would depend on what your needs are and on that one person. Doubtful, though. Good thing you don't HAVE to have all needs in life met by a S/O.

Words outta my mouth.