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It's annoying. I really don't like driving and fighting through LA traffic after work is a pain and draining. I prefer closer girls but if she's willing to come to me from wherever. I'm fine with that. Just don't expect me to drive to you all that often.
Hmm. I think it depends on how often you can see each other really.
I have recently been on 2 dates with a guy whose online dating profile suggested that he lives in my city. Turns out that he's in the army and actually works about 2 hours car ride away Mondays to Fridays...and only comes to my city on weekends. Now that would be OK if he did come here every weekend. But he hasn't been the last two, due to other plans. I'm ready to pull the plug on that one. I'd be OK with seeing him once a week but 3 weeks between dates is just too much.
So I guess what I'm saying is that as long as I can see someone regularly (i.e. at least once a week), that would be OK for me. If it's only now and again, due to the distance, I think it would be too difficult to actually build intimacy and a connection. I think it's important to keep the momentum going early on, when you are still getting to know each other. Things just tend to fizzle out for me when there is too much time between dates.
I drive about an hour to work each day.... been doing so for about 10 years now. So i think i would give it a shot especially if I was really into her. Not really ideal though. Any nice places in the middle that you both can met at?
I would always wonder "what if?" unless I at least tried.
I don't care how far away he lives. You date for a while, then move together and that problem is solved.
I dated a guy on the other side of LA - it was a 1,5 hour drive in the middle of the night or a 3 hour drive during the day.
We texted every day during the week so even we didn't see each other, we were bonding. He either took his motorycle to see me on the weekend or I drove late night and spent the weekend and drove back late Sunday with no traffic. No problem at all. I almost enjoyed the drive, listening to music.
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Fine for casual dating. Not close enough to build a real relationship. It's not that you can't see each another enough, but bonding and closeness develops more from the impromptu get togethers than from the planned formal dates.
I never measured the mileage but my boyfriend lives and hour and a half drive away. It's far and it can be a downer, yes. But he works in my area and we did the first dates here since he was here already. Now we simply spend weekends at each other's houses or he spends weekdays at mine since I'm a lot closer to him workplace than he is. Other nights we talk on the phone. We've been together just a little over a year.
I think it all depends on a lot of factors. Like so many relationship questions, this isn't the type of thing that is a simple black and white/yes or no answer. There are too many variables in each unique situation.
Fine for casual dating. Not close enough to build a real relationship. It's not that you can't see each another enough, but bonding and closeness develops more from the impromptu get togethers than from the planned formal dates.
I would say the opposite. For a special guy I would drive far.
I wouldn't drive far for a guy I am not really into. Because I can find those people nearby, too.
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