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17 year old boys aren't the most articulate and its easy to sorta resort to those tactics. Not saying it's right, just saying I can barely convey my thoughts the way I want to at times and I'm late 40's.
17 year old boys aren't the most articulate and its easy to sorta resort to those tactics. Not saying it's right, just saying I can barely convey my thoughts the way I want to at times and I'm late 40's.
I know it.
I've been working with him, because honestly it is a thing he learned from his Dad. Like how you feel about something is totally valid, and you can tell your partner "this makes me really uncomfortable. Might be a dealbreaker. Sorry that's how it is." and that is 100% your right.
But when you get into the territory of saying, "Well you are wrong to even consider this thing, and you should know that my emotions about it dictate its morality, and anyone would agree with me." It's a lot like all the threads we get here from people asking if this or that thing is arbitrarily cheating. Nothing arbitrarily is, not really. Trying to make it this matter of objective right and wrong is manipulative and crummy, and so is negging your girlfriend and saying something as insensitive as this.
But man, this is some high level stuff, and he's only 17. I feel for him. Blundering along. Face first like that.
Anyhow this relationship sucks, frankly, it's over dramatic and unhealthy and sometimes I wish they'd just break up. The only reason they don't is that they are both way too hysterical about the idea of breaking up...honestly it's just a mess. I like the girl. I love my son. But it gets old seeing how they treat each other sometimes. *sigh* Youth.
He was lashing out from a sense of insecurity. He wasn't dispensing truth.
Exactly.
He did not want to come off as being insecure, but that is mostly what was behind his objections.
I mean, I don't blame him necessarily either. There is a not-bad part of his discomfort, because I know there are aspects to life as a stripper that would be brutal for this girl to try and deal with. Some of the guys are gross, some of the women backstabbing, she's pretty sensitive to try and do that job. I wouldn't want someone I care about to wade into that, knowing it might really harm them. It's not all about thinking of other men as a threat. But it was hard for him to articulate that, and he didn't really think before he spoke either.
But she is totally pretty enough to do it. That's not remotely the problem.
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My son says..."Realistically though, you probably wouldn't get hired as a stripper. I mean, there would be prettier women than you applying for the job, and they're going to give it to the prettiest, so why bother when they'd probably turn you down anyhow."
And meltdown in 3...2...1...
I was like "Oh my god. Dude. DUDE."
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