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If she asks, be honest. If she doesn't, let it go. Again, you are stating YOUR feelings and not pushing her to do anything. If she does, fine. If she doesn't, also fine.
The other poster is correct that sometimes there are non-obvious reasons for friendships, and that sometimes they are detrimental. Don't rush to judge why there is a friendship, but be open to the idea that there is some reason for it.
Sure, you are free to share your thoughts and feelings about this girl.
Is that all? You just want your GF to know your opinion?
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Sure, you are free to share your thoughts and feelings about this girl.
Is that all? You just want your GF to know your opinion?
I don't see anything positive about this relationship so ideally I would like it to end. This is my opinion though and I can't force her to do anything.
I don't see anything positive about this relationship so ideally I would like it to end. This is my opinion though and I can't force her to do anything.
Again ... how long have you been dating, and how long has she known this friend?
This is a good point. My girlfriend does not seem similar to this girl and I have no reason not to trust her. My issue is should I be really vague when I say that, or specifically state why? My gf doesn't know about her sleeping with their other friends ex, and if I just say vaguely that I don't like her I think it will be dismissed as I don't know her that well. she also doesn't really know about her embarrassing me in front of my family. As I said before, I took the myob approach and I don't think I should hold back anymore when asked about why I don't like her friend.
Well look, if it's bothering you this much, just tell her, then. If you have a solid relationship you should be able to tell one another basically anything. You don't really need our permission to talk to your girlfriend. We're strangers. You and she are not. What you say to one another is between the two of you.
I don't see anything positive about this relationship so ideally I would like it to end. This is my opinion though and I can't force her to do anything.
Yeah, you don't have a say in whether or not she chooses to remain friends, for sure.
Many, many people's partners/spouses/SOs have a friend or two (or maybe more) who they don't like. It's fair to say you prefer not to spend time around that person, but it's pretty controlling to say, "I don't see anything positive about your relationship with this person, and I'd like the friendship to end." You don't really get that kind of say.
Dating 3 years, they are friends from college which ended a decade ago.
If they are college friends and that relationship has remained intact for a decade following graduation (many college friendships do not, they peter out), then I'd assume that they know one another's behavior quite well. You aren't bringing anything enlightening to the table by "telling" on your girlfriend's friend, most likely, and she's already invested more time in this friendship than she has with you, so I really wouldn't press ending it, as it's not your place. The friend has done nothing to you or your girlfriend, so you really have no beef.
I don't see anything positive about this relationship so ideally I would like it to end. This is my opinion though and I can't force her to do anything.
This comment makes me curious and I don't want to jump to conclusions, but is it possible you're jealous of her relationship with this close friend and want to bring them apart?
I'm not saying this friend is a wonderful person or anything, it's just something about the way you put the above ^ that kind of made me wonder.
I mean surely you have friends that are idiots in one way or another...or many ways...are you willing to get rid of all of them? Personally I'd be thinking about my own motivations here...really deep down why I wanted my SO to get rid of a friend.
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We're strangers. You and she are not. What you say to one another is between the two of you.
