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Only in Timberline's eyes. I think the other regulars would not take issue with your course of action provided you did it respectfully.
You cannot do that respectfully.
I think the only people that think it is ok are the two virgins that don't know a damn thing about relationships. The two that have deal breakers so they can rationalize their screwed up life.
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Um...no? There are vast numbers of divorced women with school-aged or older children and responsible fathers who pay child support and have shared custody. It's the NORM. Just about every single mother I know falls into this category. Not a baby mama among them.
Are you not meeting educated, professional women at all?
I was talking a rare situation where the variables are there and I like the person. That is all.
I'm meeting educated professional women who: are taken, I'm turned off by otherwise, or want nothing to do with me romantically. This particular woman is educated and intelligent and I know already she embraces a big part of my life which is music and a particular artist.
Didn't you say this the last time you left a single mom in the middle of a meal?
Thanks for reminding me of that because I had forgotten about it. You are indeed correct and because I handled that situation poorly I apologized to her.
Thanks for reminding me of that because I had forgotten about it. You are indeed correct and because I handled that situation poorly I apologized to her.
I was talking a rare situation where the variables are there and I like the person. That is all.
I'm meeting educated professional women who: are taken, I'm turned off by otherwise, or want nothing to do with me romantically. This particular woman is educated and intelligent and I know already she embraces a big part of my life which is music and a particular artist.
I am sorry to keep harping, but I am trying to understand you here, and to get you to understand yourself better. You flat out stated that you wanted nothing to do with single moms, period. It had nothing to do with the age of their child, the involvement of the father or the attractiveness of the woman. Just no, no kids.
I understand that your mind has changed because of a particular woman (and that is GREAT!) but doesn't that make your earlier pronouncement exceedingly prejudicial? You painted every single mother you have never met with the same brush--the stereotype of bad-boy-dating babymamas with drama.
I think it would be good for you to really examine your biases and bigotry more closely in other areas of your life. Being more open to people and their particularities could be a good step to help you heal from your past.
If you like her enough you wouldn't be able to help it. You'll find yourself drawn to her without logical explanation. Only time will tell.
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