10 traits a man must possess to date a strong woman? (sexy, couple)
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When I say free spirit, I mean it is a Thursday and I have a few minutes and want to stop for a beer, or go for a bike ride with a friend.
Or it is the weekend, and I pack up the car and kids and head to the beach. I have had guys dump me because I did not drag them along to the beach. I don't need someone with me all the time.
I don't want freedom to cheat. That is not me. My couch surfer ex even told my new bf that I am incredibly loyal and would never cheat.
I wasn't talking about you. I was giving an example of someone having a different perception of themselves than others have.
I am probably not good with the compromise part. I tend to just barrel through doing my own thing. I always wanted the guy that fits into my life, not one that I have to turn my life upside down to accommodate.
One of the things I got onto my bf about last night, is that I no longer feel like I have freedom. I can't just stop into the bar on my way home from work for a drink without having to answer to him. I am use to being a free spirit that just does what I want, when I want. I was like that as a teenager also. My mom would call me, asking when I would be home, and sometimes I was at a beach 8-10 hours away. She never knew where I would turn up. I need freedom.
Yet you then wonder why you end up with guys who don't really want to give much of themselves to you.
For me, I don't need a man to be able to buy a house or drive a nice car. I want someone to help make things easier for me, cuddle with after a hard day, travel with, help with all the things my dad still does, etc.
You want a guy who gives you everything you need without being able to give him what he really needs.
I find that I have lots of contradictions, which probably explains why I struggle with relationships. I want someone to be there when I want them, do what I need, when I need it, but leave me alone when I need to be a free spirit.
That's not going to make a guy feel very safe or secure in a relationship with you... and safe and secure is exactly what a guy who will invest himself for the long run will need in a relationship.
I often take my children. I might be craving some time away from the significant other. But I am not joking when I say he waits for me outside the bathroom door. I can't even pee in peace.
My single girl friends go out more than I do and I go out often. I took my whole family out last night, including my parents, so it is not like I do not believe in spending significant time with family. I do.
Single people generally go out much more by themselves or with their other single friends that do people in committed relationships. That's just generally the way life works for normal people.
Having a man is not the issue. I can replace men in my life in about 5 seconds, because usually they are already circling waiting like vultures. Finding what I want is another story.
Hahah - then dump the guy and stay offline and out of the bars for a few months....I dare ya! Double dog dare ya!
I can dump the guy, but why would I need to stay offline and give up the bar?
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