Realizing that you're not as attractive as you thought you were (Asian, marriage)

[Londoncowboy30]

Originally Posted by WannaBeNSoCal

Looks are subjective; one persons 10 may be another persons 7.

That's wins hands down mate as it can't be argued or toyed with

[ATG5]

Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut

Nope, can say I've rated myself higher than below average to so-so average @best.

I'm not delusional. I own quite a few mirrors, thank you.

Please, you are a very handsome dude.


And, nope, I've actually probably underestimated how attractive I am.

[free.spirit]

I think people who obsess about a scale are insecure. Honestly I really don't think about it. I am either attracted to someone or not.

The picture posted of the guy upthread is very attractive, however he could open his mouth and be obnoxious, arrogant, rude or unappealing.

For me there has to be substance to back up a handsome guy or I'm really not interested. I don't care how good looking he is.

[Metaphysique]

Originally Posted by nep321

I mean, even though I see myself as a 7, once in a while a 9 guy will show interest in me. So yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But generally speaking, I can reasonably get with a 7 rated guy. Generally within the 6-8 range, most of the time.

Well, according to some, most people tend to date people within two points of their own attractiveness "rating." So a "9" can date a "7," and a "7" can date a "5." For those who put a lot of weight on an attractiveness scale this seems to be how it's used.

In any case, I've dated men who most would deem less attractive, but I was attracted to them, and that's what mattered.

[Mikala43]

Guess what OP? You don't deserve anything.

You earn it.

x100 because we are talking about people.


I suspect you will be single awhile longer.

[Metaphysique]

Originally Posted by NorthStarDelight

If you don't mind me asking, how do you "rate" guys on the 1-10 scale? Is this a common standard that you and your peers agree upon?

Would this fellow rate a 9 or 10 in your book?



If you consider yourself a 7 and have no problem bagging other "7" or "8" guys, I fail to see what the issue is, except that you've yet to secure a long-term relationship. In that case, forget about looks and focus on personality and companionship. If that's not your cup of tea, that's perfectly fine too. It's up to you to determine what your priorities are.

Just be glad you're not 49 years old who could stand to lose 20 or 30 pounds...lol.

I think Zac Effron is gorgeous in a very "pretty" sort of way with his bone structure and refined features. I also think Gerard Butler is very handsome in a rugged way with less refined features.

[RedWings18]

With the advent of tinder, instagram and other social media, the amount of positive attention even the most average woman receives is obnoxious.

Of course it inflates sense of self.

[Auraliea]

Regardless, placing a person a numerical scale is ridiculous and trying to justify it is even worse.

That's no way to go about life and just screws everything up.

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by nep321

I mean, even though I see myself as a 7, once in a while a 9 guy will show interest in me. So yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But generally speaking, I can reasonably get with a 7 rated guy. Generally within the 6-8 range, most of the time.

Stop doing this ^^^. For real. Your mirror doesn't have an indicator arrow. It's all in your head, and that's where the problem is.

[RedWings18]

Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life

Stop doing this ^^^. For real. Your mirror doesn't have an indicator arrow. It's all in your head, and that's where the problem is.

There's a term for it but it escapes me. It's like when a body builder looks in the mirror and sees himself as small but the rest of the world sees him as huge. Or a model seeing herself as fat, but in reality is perfectly fit.