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Usually if a guy gets to date 3 and there isn't even a serious attempt to kiss, the girl will clearly think there is an issue and it's time to move on. It's one thing to take it slow, but it's something else entirely to be stuck moving at a glacial pace. She doesn't want another friend, she wants to date the guy. If the kiss is a dud and it doesn't work out, fine, but why waste weeks or months trying to figure out if there is any chemistry at all? There is a huge gulf between sex and a kiss.
I also agree that there needs to be some effort to personalize the dates beyond the generic date activities. If the OP likes to do X and Y activities, then see if the date enjoys them. That's essential to figuring out whether there is a spark. If the woman doesn't like any activities the OP enjoys, it may be time to move on.
There are some women that actually enjoy these types of 'soft' guys who are too afraid to make any real moves.
These women are bored and looking to have fun on some guy's dime without having to worry about a relationship. These types are more than happy to keep the guy guessing.
I wonder if the OP is continuing to pay for these activities all by himself. These activities aren't exactly cheap.
There are some women that actually enjoy these types of 'soft' guys who are too afraid to make any real moves.
These women are bored and looking to have fun on some guy's dime without having to worry about a relationship. These types are more than happy to keep the guy guessing.
I wonder if the OP is continuing to pay for these activities all by himself. These activities aren't exactly cheap.
I am. On the first date she offered to help out for the dinner, which I found odd. I'm going to make my move as far as kissing her on the next date.
And why not? Because it isn't a way to date? according to who? is there some standard operating procedure when it comes to dating?
Ive had women throughout my dating years 'insist' on staying in, making a meal and watching Netflix. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
It amazes me that people cant figure out what to do when it comes to dating. I mean, whats next.... coming on here to ask what to do on the fourth, fifth, 8th date? c'mon people, Lol.
And why not? Because it isn't a way to date? according to who?
Ive had women throughout my dating years 'insist' on staying in, making a meal and watching Netflix. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
It amazes me that people cant figure out what to do when it comes to dating. I mean, whats next.... coming on here to ask what to do on the fourth, fifth, 8th date? c'mon people, Lol.
Mate can you clarify please when you mentioned Netflix and chill was that sex or actually watching Netflix and chilling?
And why not? Because it isn't a way to date? according to who? is there some standard operating procedure when it comes to dating?
Ive had women throughout my dating years 'insist' on staying in, making a meal and watching Netflix. I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.
It amazes me that people cant figure out what to do when it comes to dating. I mean, whats next.... coming on here to ask what to do on the fourth, fifth, 8th date? c'mon people, Lol.
I'm with you on that. And the no sex on the first, second or third date? Bahahaha. And if there was honest to goodness chemistry, it started with a kiss, but that was after having built a rapport and developed a sense of the person.
My husband and I kissed at the beginning of our first date. Like when we hugged.
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Originally Posted by Londoncowboy30
Mate can you clarify please when you mentioned Netflix and chill was that sex or actually watching Netflix and chilling?
I'm with you on that. And the no sex on the first, second or third date? Bahahaha. And if there was honest to goodness chemistry, it started with a kiss, but that was after having built a rapport and developed a sense of the person.
My husband and I kissed at the beginning of our first date. Like when we hugged.
It means sex.
Yeah, that's funny, Lol.
I absolutely put no pressure to have sex on any date, but like you said about 'honest to goodness chemistry' (if its there) difficult to avoid what happens next.
I'm with you on that. And the no sex on the first, second or third date? Bahahaha. And if there was honest to goodness chemistry, it started with a kiss, but that was after having built a rapport and developed a sense of the person.
My husband and I kissed at the beginning of our first date. Like when we hugged.
It means sex.
Read a couple of pages back.... LOL
I knew so but someone who doesn't know what it means owes me an apologie!
I'm with you on that. And the no sex on the first, second or third date? Bahahaha. And if there was honest to goodness chemistry, it started with a kiss, but that was after having built a rapport and developed a sense of the person.
My husband and I kissed at the beginning of our first date. Like when we hugged.
This is all well and good but has no bearing on the OP's question. He has been quite clear that he's not looking for sex by date 3. What any of us has done in our relationships doesn't answer his questions about date ideas.
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