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Its commonly said you always have a sweet spot for your first love/teen love. And it hurts to think she got to experience her youth and innocence with this boy and that she will always have an unconditional soft spot for him, no matter how old whe gets, she will always think those memories were sweet. Because they were just kids and they got to experience their youth with each other and live out their fantasies with each other.
However, we met as adults, so I dont have that unconditional special place in her heart. And she is my first love. If I screw things up, she will look back in either bitterness or indifference. However, with him, it is "bittersweet"
I have to disagree. I have no sweet spot for my first love. At all. My sweet spot is for my current honey, because he is everything I want and need. My first love was a mess.
I have never heard of an unconditional soft spot. Do guys really think like this? I'm a woman, and this way of thinking seems very bizarre to me.
stop torturing yourself about this. what is past is past, what you need to do is look to the future.
the very first thing you have to do is relax and take things as they come. do not push her into anything she doesnt want to do.
as for not having a special place in her heart, that is quite wrong. everyone, male or female, keeps their past loves in special places. they always look back on past loves, and can always find the good in any relationship. so unles you screw things up very badly, like say you beat her for a year before you two break up, or if you do something similarly stupid and sleep with her best friend or sister, then when the relationship ends, as all do, then when she does look back, she will have happy memories to look back on, not bad ones.
so relax and let this relationship flow, and do your best to try to make her happy.
I have to disagree. I have no sweet spot for my first love. At all. My sweet spot is for my current honey, because he is everything I want and need. My first love was a mess.
I have never heard of an unconditional soft spot. Do guys really think like this? I'm a woman, and this way of thinking seems very bizarre to me.
Not in general no .... Well I don't as such
I've got great great great memories of course as well as a few bad ones so..... No particular soft spot
OP you are well overthinking about this and in my opinion worrying about nothing , she's with YOU now and that's for a reason ..... That's ALL you have to think about
But isnt the first love (or the high school sweetheart) the sweetest and most special one?
No. Not by a long shot.
Is she your first girlfriend???
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Not by a long shot.