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Originally Posted by Hogpotch
We have been together a year and she loves to shop at VS so for her birthday I got her a $100 gift card to it and offered to take her up there and she could shop then get some food. But she got really upset and said I was "thoughtless". I don't understand why she is so upset. I got a gift card to somewhere I know she likes, and I was thinking of her about what she would like.
I would have snatched that gift card from her hand and dumped her on the spot. $100 is no drop in the bucket for anyone these days and crapping on your gift in front of you shows a complete lack of class. Do you need that in your life?
We have been together a year and she loves to shop at VS so for her birthday I got her a $100 gift card to it and offered to take her up there and she could shop then get some food. But she got really upset and said I was "thoughtless". I don't understand why she is so upset. I got a gift card to somewhere I know she likes, and I was thinking of her about what she would like.
Use this as an opportunity to learn about her and her character, as well as her ability to communicate.
Ask her what it was about the gift that made her think it was thoughtless. Ask her what she thinks a more appropriate gift would be.
Also, what kinds of gifts does she give you for special occasions?
Come back here and tell us what she said. We can then tell you whether or not you need to launch her.
We have been together a year and she loves to shop at VS so for her birthday I got her a $100 gift card to it and offered to take her up there and she could shop then get some food. But she got really upset and said I was "thoughtless". I don't understand why she is so upset. I got a gift card to somewhere I know she likes, and I was thinking of her about what she would like.
I think the better option would have been to get her something small from there you picked out yourself, or maybe another gift from another store like a pocketbook in the brand she likes, and then added the gift card inside. Sometimes half of the thrill is in unwrapping, just like how that is the whole point of VS in the first place.
1. She is upset because she suspects that your motives are not to indulge her wants/desires, but your own. Towards the end of my relationships, I used to feel this way towards the boyfriend. If I'm being honest, it was more a symptom of the disintegration of our relationship, as opposed to the cause. I am not saying this is what is happening here. Just stating my experience.
2. She expects more than just $100 for her birthday. Unless, OP, you gave her the card in addition to other gifts?
3. She is highly entitled, felt it was less than she deserved and she is high-maintenance.
4. She doesn't want a gift card, but a carefully considered gift.
Side note: $100 is plenty for Victoria's Secret in my mind, but I'm an independent, simple gal. I'd buy one of those cotton nighties and their scented fragrance. Done deal!
I would have snatched that gift card from her hand and dumped her on the spot. $100 is no drop in the bucket for anyone these days and crapping on your gift in front of you shows a complete lack of class. Do you need that in your life?
Yes, it is bad form to complain about any kind of gift especially a romantic one. At least he didn't get her an electric screwdriver. I got that once. That is how the relationship died. He used to get me VS and pretty things like earrings and I would get him guy things for his man cave that I knew he wanted, make his favorite meal, and then put on the VS for dessert (see how in giving we receive?). Then he started getting me things like a toaster. And then he got me that. I told him he could have at least gotten me a good attachment for the screwdriver so I could have fun with it because HE certainly wasn't going to be getting any fun that night.
Yea, $100 at Victoria secret isn't that much. She can probably only get a pair of their cheapest nylons.
Nah its not bad. She can get 5 cotton, lacy and satin undies for 25 dollars on their sales. You can get a nice perfume 50- 90 dollars, lip glosses, bags, robes. A bra cost anywhere 35-up. So they are pricey.
I think the op's lady might like that as a personal endeavor not flaunt her sexy side.
The only issue I see is that gift cards are not very thoughtful which is why I never give them as gifts. I prefer to buy actual items that I think suits the recipient and include a gift receipt.
When I get a gift card, it's like someone saying, "Here. Here's a chore for you. Go buy your own present."
Ha, I can see that. Me, I love gift cards because it's nice to have when I feel like shopping but also don't want to spend money. It's a nice treat. Send that drawerful my way!
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