Invited to wedding. Is it acceptable to go to party only, but not the ceremony?
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Am I only one who works Saturday's here? OP just say you had been scheduled against your will for the time of the ceremony but I want to be at the reception for sure.
True story, my manager at an old job got married on a Saturday afternoon and invited me to his wedding and ceremony and was surprised when I said I could make the reception but not the damn ceremony and I was like "brother, I don't get off until bla-bla, you made my schedule man." Anyway, I didn't make it to the reception because of other stuff but my manager was like at least make the reception, I'd love to have you.
This.
Not everyone's job is easy to make absentee arrangements for. I had one such job once.
In this case, I think he should just TELL the ex up front what's going on before giving an rvsp and ASK if your idea would be acceptable. She may very well just not CARE as long as he shows up at some point to wish her well.
IMO, none of the "reasons" Glamour lists really hold water.
Nope. If it's inconvenient for you to make the trip for the ceremony, it's equally inconvenient to make the trip for the reception.
If it's truly inconvenient, just send your regrets.
If there's still so much there that the ceremony would be traumatizing, a reception celebrating the happy couple isn't gonna be any less so. Skip the whole thing if you're emotionally fragile about an ex.
If the wedding is destination and a local reception is planned specifically for people who couldn't make the trip, the who thing is a non-issue, because it's specifically planned for people not at the ceremony. It's not a pertinent example.
They think you know them well enough to invite you to the ceremony. If you don't agree, send regrets. If you don't know them well enough to sit through a ceremony, you don't know them well enough to drink on their dime, either.
Umm, what's with the "drink on their dime"? Do you not give a gift when you go to a wedding? Where I come from, we give cash and we usually give a cash gift that covers the cost for us PLUS a gift.
So many people are responding about how tacky it is to NOT go to the ceremony. I'd like to know how close the OP has been with his ex that his ex is sending him a wedding invitation. Imo, it's tacky to send wedding invitations just to get gifts. My husband and I are friendly with some of our ex's but we would never consider sending invitations when we got married. Sometimes life happens and people can't make it to the ceremony. That's no reason why they shouldn't go celebrate the couple's happiness at the reception.
Your position is that it's cool to skip the ceremony but hit the reception, because you should get some kind of food/drink compensation in return for giving a gift?
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