Do the expenditures on the first date "set expectations" for future dates and return on investment?

[CAOU812]

Originally Posted by Mighty_Pelican

In your experience, if you go to a fairly expensive (but high quality) restaurant and end up with a $200 tab, then go to a classical music concert in a VIP box, then go to a high end wine bar all on a first date, would that "set expectations" for future dates?

I treat myself to these things a few times a year, if I happen to invite a date to join me is it probable that she would expect this on the regular? Would it influence the return on investment she would expect from the time and effort she commits to me?

I don't think that's really the best idea for a first date. Try something lower key that's not so intense. It's more about intensity to me than the $$ though I think it would be good to set expectations a wee bit lower to start with as well. I mean, where do you go from there? How about just going for coffee?

BTW, agreed that looking at this from an ROI standpoint is really the biggest problem here. She's a woman with thoughts and feelings, not a client!

[renter16]

Originally Posted by CAOU812

I don't think that's really the best idea for a first date. Try something lower key that's not so intense. It's more about intensity to me than the $$ though I think it would be good to set expectations a wee bit lower to start with as well. I mean, where do you go from there? How about just going for coffee?

BTW, agreed that looking at this from an ROI standpoint is really the biggest problem here. She's a woman with thoughts and feelings, not a client!

I have a first date on saturday at a coffee spot which is across from the park. So if it things go well there could be a little extension of the date.