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Old 07-14-2016, 08:08 AM
 
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It's been 5 hours now, did you do it? Do it.
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Old 07-14-2016, 08:10 AM
 
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It's been 5 hours now, did you do it? Do it.
Still unsure. I mean what the hell would I even write??

Also I want to be 110% sure she's actually left the company, would be awkward if I messaged her and it went horribly and then turns out she was with the company the whole time lol.
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Old 07-14-2016, 08:16 AM
 
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So this is where it gets tricky. I've come across her Facebook...
Let me fix this for you...


So this is where it gets tricky. I've Google stalked her and found her Facebook account...

Some people (and companies) take a dim view on this sort of stuff. If you have a little woody for this chick, go and talk to her like a man. Otherwise, maybe leave her the hell alone.


I swear, we deal with children and sicko's around here.
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Old 07-14-2016, 08:36 AM
 
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Do it.

Indecisiveness is a weakness. Chicks dig alpha guys who are not timid and afraid of their own shadows, guys that seem to be rare around these forum parts.

Keep it simple

Introduce yourself as a guy that used to work in same company as her. Say you happened to come across her profile on Facebook and wanted to see what's up (try to minimize the creep vibe even though it's creepy how you found her).

Do NOT ask her out via FB on your first post. Feel her out first before making wedding plans.

Whatever you decide, please do not stretch this thread out to 6 pages of never ending apprehension and indecisiveness on your part. Either do it or don't do it.

Easy.
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Old 07-14-2016, 08:45 AM
 
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Still unsure. I mean what the hell would I even write??

Also I want to be 110% sure she's actually left the company, would be awkward if I messaged her and it went horribly and then turns out she was with the company the whole time lol.
Yes that would ruin everything to FB with "I see you've left, that's too bad,..." if she hasn't.
Check the company directory. Bigger companies/Govt /Corp sometimes have name recognition if you call the automated type and don't have an extension.
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Old 07-14-2016, 08:46 AM
 
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Just say this: Hey! Someone told me you left the company, and I wanted to find out if it's true or if you are just taking a really long vacation. I always enjoyed seeing you in the break room and will miss your smile.
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Old 07-14-2016, 09:18 AM
 
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I would!

OP, you only live once. You'll never know unless you reach out.
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Old 07-14-2016, 09:25 AM
 
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I work in the head office of a fairly large company. Over the past several months there was this girl who worked on the other side of the floor who i thought was incredibly attractive. We would always seem to lock eye contact in the kitchen or around the floor, would get a smile from her usually and I could just sense that there was some sort of attraction there. It sounds stupid but I definitely felt a connection with her that I haven't got from other women I've been with (including my ex).

Anyway I had a few opportunities to strike up a conversation with her, but I pussied out and told myself I would do it next time, but I never really got an opportunity like that again.. And now I found out from someone else that she's left the company

So this is where it gets tricky. I've come across her Facebook, and keep debating whether I should just say **** it and send her a message. On one hand I've got nothing to lose really since I'll never see her again if it doesn't go my way, but at the same time it feels dirty/creepy in a way to do that out of the blue. But I don't want this to be the one that got away
Courage is the foundation of all happiness. Just try it without sounding creepy. As in, "I don't know why we never really got to talk, but I wanted to reach out to you on Facebook anyway."

Here's an additional hint. If you connect with someone like that again, just talk to her. Not like she's a freaking fertility goddess or something, but as if she's a real flesh-and-blood person. She'll like you a lot more for being that way than being some moonstruck tongue-tied schlub. Trust me on this.

I need to start charging for this advice.
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Old 07-14-2016, 10:51 AM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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Let me fix this for you...


So this is where it gets tricky. I've Google stalked her and found her Facebook account...

Some people (and companies) take a dim view on this sort of stuff. If you have a little woody for this chick, go and talk to her like a man. Otherwise, maybe leave her the hell alone.


I swear, we deal with children and sicko's around here.
^ All of this, yes lol
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Old 07-14-2016, 11:14 AM
 
Location: Middle Earth
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Let me fix this for you...


So this is where it gets tricky. I've Google stalked her and found her Facebook account...

Some people (and companies) take a dim view on this sort of stuff. If you have a little woody for this chick, go and talk to her like a man. Otherwise, maybe leave her the hell alone.


I swear, we deal with children and sicko's around here.
Oh please. People here make it sound like they've never googled a person in their lives and that it's a crime if someone else does it. What the OP did is not even stalking (yet ). I use the internet to my advantage all the time like finding out if they're really single, what their facebook posts are like vs. who they are in person, etc. I feel that it gives me the upper hand to see if I want to go ahead with someone or not.

It may feel a little creepy if you message her, but if she is really into you, she wouldn't mind seeing a message from you. Just keep it short and simple. No need to blurt out your dying love for her and that she's the one that got away.
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