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It's not really so cut and dry. Maybe you are just at a time in your life where you want to be alone, are busy, or realize you are not compatible, are tired of the negatives in the relationship. It's usually more than one factor. The fuller your life the more opportunities to move on. I find I struggled the most when I was stuck and in a place where I had to do a lot of work, or was unhappy...
Moving on doesn't mean you don't love your ex.
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You ever notice, how when you break up with your Boyfriend or Girlfriend, that a month or even a few months go by, and you find out that, they have already moved on and have a new partner, and everyone loves them, and are commenting great things about them etc. While your still single and only dating or even not have any luck with dating, remaining single? Why is it, that our ex-partners, get to move on and find someone while we don't?
Why would the person who ended the relationship care whether the other person moved on or not? Why would that person take the time to ,for example, follow their ex's fb or be bothered if said ex found another relationship? That makes absolutely no sense. Op, I don't know your intentions. Maybe you were keeping score, thought you "won" because you were the one to end it, or thought you had the upper hand or something. That's the only reason, I can surmise that you would even give it a thought. Maybe, your ex moving on when you ended the relationship made you feel like you lost in some way, or else you really wouldn't care.
Why would the person who ended the relationship care whether the other person moved on or not? Why would that person take the time to ,for example, follow their ex's fb or be bothered if said ex found another relationship? That makes absolutely no sense. Op, I don't know your intentions. Maybe you were keeping score, thought you "won" because you were the one to end it, or thought you had the upper hand or something. That's the only reason, I can surmise that you would even give it a thought. Maybe, your ex moving on when you ended the relationship made you feel like you lost in some way, or else you really wouldn't care.
I don't know if the OP is asking because of his situations in past, or just asking in general, but I agree with what you mentioned above.
I also have made reference to that sort of pyschology in past threads about ex's seemingly moving on quickly after being dumped.
In fact, there was a thread not too long ago where a guy was obsessed with a flaky girl, and he mentioned that he 'ended' the relationship with her with a long winded explanation of why he was doing so and what she did that made him decide to do so. She seemed fine with that, and soon started seeing other guys. The guy couldn't handle that, and soon went back to her saying he wanted to rekindle the 'relationship.' It didn't end well after that.
Many a guy are like that, with their big egos that cloud their thinking. They decide to 'end' a relationship with a girl, in the hopes that she will be devastated and repeatedly beg and grovel on their knees and plead for him to take her back. It's a form of manipulative power and control.
And so when the girl instead doesn't seem too bothered by the breakup, and shortly after starts dating other guys, it's a blow to his ego and psyche. His hopes are dashed, and now here he is all alone and miserable. He thinks he wasn't as important to the girl as he thought, all he poured into the relationship meaningless by his standards.
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You ever notice, how when you break up with your Boyfriend or Girlfriend, that a month or even a few months go by, and you find out that, they have already moved on and have a new partner, and everyone loves them, and are commenting great things about them etc. While your still single and only dating or even not have any luck with dating, remaining single? Why is it, that our ex-partners, get to move on and find someone while we don't?
Sometime I move on faster. Sometimes they do. Sometimes we're at the same place.
Just because some are not in a relationship doesn't mean they didn't move on. That is my case and I'm happy with that. Some people rush into relationships and learned nothing from previous ones.
I thought my ex had moved on "to better things!" (her words) a few weeks ago; but now she's back looking for a "reconciliation over a silly misunderstanding!" (her words again)
Sometimes when someone splits up with you on their terms, they want to brag about how wonderful things are "without you" etc; but in reality once the novelty has worn off, they sometimes realise the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
I thought my ex had moved on "to better things!" (her words) a few weeks ago; but now she's back looking for a "reconciliation over a silly misunderstanding!" (her words again)
Sometimes when someone splits up with you on their terms, they want to brag about how wonderful things are "without you" etc; but in reality once the novelty has worn off, they sometimes realise the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
That wasn't very nice when she said she was moving on to "better things". And she's really downplaying things when she says it was a "silly misunderstanding".
Just think very carefully if you want to get back with her, as she could possibly do this to you again.
I've said this before but with relationships I'm always the last one in & the first one out.
I've been told this is "male" behavior more than once & even by some of the ex's.
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It dosen't keep me up at night or anything but sometimes I wonder if it means
something is "wrong" with me. I almost feel kind of guilty; as if I enjoy some unfair advantage or something.
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