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I've been dating a guy long distance. The distance has not been a challenge for me, the thing that is a challenge is his hot/cold attitude. I did push quite a bit as I was super frustrated in the way he was treating me. I was sick the whole week and he never really asked how I was doing. The convos were very one sided selfish ones. I tried to talk to him directly, then said I would date other guys (I know I made a mistake). He would tell me along the lines of "oh I'm close to saying I love you", but at other times pushing me away, telling me he is hurting me that I should just leave. I find out that he isn't ready for a relationship and that we could be friends w/potential. I did not push the exclusive part of the relationship, he wanted to put the gf/bf title on it. He has been hurt in the past and is afraid to be hurt again. I understand his hurt as nearly a year ago I left the 1st man that I ever loved. Is his cold attitude due to being afraid? He was really loving and affectionate when we 1st met, I know that could just be a show though. The funny thing is he doesn't want the time "apart" to date others and actually got sad when I would date other guys. I am not actively looking, but I'm not gonna sit on my butt like an idiot waiting for a guy, if an opportunity comes up I will go on dates w/guys (no sex or anything). I am really against this idea but I know if this helps him and we get back together then good, if I force it he will leave anyways.
It doesn't matter what he says. The truth about how he feels about you is the way he treats you. Only you can decide how you want to be treated and what you are willing to accept.
Not ready to date yet, but hoping to ready in a couple weeks?
So I posted about my short LD romance, that ended up w/me hurt and the guy ending up w/an easy way out. I'll admit I have shed tears (not in public) and I haven't been sleeping well over the last couple of nights. I know this a phase as I went through one at the end of last year except I was w/the other nearly a year and he was my 1st love. I know that the feeling of wanting to crawl out of my skin is normal (at least for me) in this type of situation. Although the guy told me he cared about me, he doesn't want to commit (bottom line), but pretty much wants me as an option. He was resentful that I may meet someone, though I told him he would be free to date as well. I did say I wouldn't date, but after 2 days (2 very long days for me) of not hearing a peep, I feel like that silence is permanent and I will not be waiting around a week, month, 2 months for him to come calling on me. I feel extremely disappointed, rejected and stupid for being excited about the guy.
I already deleted his FB and any trace of him on my phone. I think him placing me in the "friends, but future possible relationship" he thinks that I will be totally content and I'm not. Had I not put pressure for him to tell me the truth, I'll bet the hurt would have lasted prob another month. I have already put my dating profile up and just checking out the options (close to me). I want a man who doesn't hold his insecurities of the past against me, especially those of his exes. At least I know that I can love again and when I meet the right guy I will have that great bond that doesn't only last for a short "honeymoon"" period, but for a long time. I feel if a guy values me and wants me we will work out the problems together. I miss the comfort level you reach w/your partner and you know for certain that the date you go on will not be a flop
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