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My financial advisor just had his first child at 50. He spent most of his life accumulating wealth and working. Last time I talked to him, he really is enjoying fatherhood.... and finally seems to have "settled down". He has the option to retire early if he can convince himself to stop.
Granted, he has money, charisma, good looking, and fit. His wife looks like she is in her late 30s.
For women, the biological clock is ticking and unforgiving....
Yes but most women will stick to marry guys younger than me because I can always get a question from a woman in her 30s being suspicious about me at 41 never have gotten married. And having that strike of being engaged and it didn't work out and single for 5 years
Well they have that luck also and if they were single and came across a single guy at 41,not married it can raise a potential red flag
Yup. Lots of "red flags" out there.
Word to the wise: If you live your life worried about what people you don't know would think are "red flags", you are going to be absolutely miserable.
Word to the wise: If you live your life worried about what people you don't know would think are "red flags", you are going to be absolutely miserable.
So you are saying because I am already 41 and single that it is a red flag?
Ok but let's say you were single and you heard about someone having that happy little family and you wanted it as wel and you don't have it. Trust me it would bother you a bit as well
Yes but most women will stick to marry guys younger than me because I can always get a question from a woman in her 30s being suspicious about me at 41 never have gotten married. And having that strike of being engaged and it didn't work out and single for 5 years
Maybe it is the attitude of the women in your locale but that is not what I am observing.
However, most people will ask what you've been doing with your life now you are in your 40s... it is a topic of discussion. If you've done nothing or accomplished little in life, that is really onus on you.. not the combination of your age and single status. Blaming it on age + single status is a cop out and shifting the blame on the women you are are attempting to date.
Let's put it this way.. if I'm a low wage job worker, little education, no life accomplishment, and little drive, I'm not going to do well trying to date career, educated, driven women. I could be exactly their age and they would still be wary of dating me.
Ok but let's say you were single and you heard about someone having that happy little family and you wanted it as wel and you don't have it. Trust me it would bother you a bit as well
You only have yourself to blame though. You chose to be single these past 5 years. Nothing wrong with that if it's something you wanted but it sounds like it's not. There are people out there who no matter what can't have children for personal health or genetic reasons. They have no choice. You did (and arguable still do). So trying to ellicit sympathy over your life choices doesn't work.
You have a choice again. You can go out and try and put your best effort into things or you can wring your hands and say "woe is me." Make a good choice.
Ok but let's say you were single and you heard about someone having that happy little family and you wanted it as wel and you don't have it. Trust me it would bother you a bit as well
No it wouldn't bother me. I would just continue to live my life to the best of my ability. We can't always have everything we want.
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