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A man I barely know sent me an e-mail asking me to have dinner with him tomorrow. It's his birthday and I found it rather sweet.
I accepted. Then got an e-mail saying that his daughter would be taking him out for his birthday and could we do it Thursday or Friday?
Well, this is just rude to me...like all of a sudden he made plans with her after I accepted.
My friend told me to cut him some slack since it was his birthday, but I feel that it's just a bad beginning, and that it would be too accommodating on my part.
I would cut him some slack just because it's his birthday. I can understand why he would want to spend it with family over somebody he barely knows. Plus he offered to reschedule straight away.
If he often cancels/reschedules however, I would move on. I prefer when people are respectful of my time
Uh, family comes before people you "barely know." Always. I would reschedule anything with anyone if stuff with my family came up, and there's nothing flaky about that.
A man I barely know sent me an e-mail asking me to have dinner with him tomorrow. It's his birthday and I found it rather sweet.
I accepted. Then got an e-mail saying that his daughter would be taking him out for his birthday and could we do it Thursday or Friday?
Well, this is just rude to me...like all of a sudden he made plans with her after I accepted.
My friend told me to cut him some slack since it was his birthday, but I feel that it's just a bad beginning, and that it would be too accommodating on my part.
Comments?
He didn't flake. He rescheduled.
Cut him some slack and don't be resentful when you actually do meet him.
I find it more of a red flag if he doesn't have friends who take him out and invites a stranger for dinner before his daughter surprisingly steps up.
A man I barely know sent me an e-mail asking me to have dinner with him tomorrow. It's his birthday and I found it rather sweet.
I accepted. Then got an e-mail saying that his daughter would be taking him out for his birthday and could we do it Thursday or Friday?
Well, this is just rude to me...like all of a sudden he made plans with her after I accepted.
My friend told me to cut him some slack since it was his birthday, but I feel that it's just a bad beginning, and that it would be too accommodating on my part.
Comments?
Seriously?
He did not flake on you... THAT would be rude.
Rescheduling in advance, with alternate options for you to choose from, is being very considerate.
You DO need to cut him some slack.
Surely you can see why he would like to spend his birthday with family (who for all we know came in from out of town for the event!) instead of with a stranger.
If you think this is bad, you are in for a whole lot of disappointment down the dating road....
I can't stand flakes but this time he didn't flake. It was a simple reschedule on the date because his daughter is taking him out. Can't really blame him there.
Agree that the daughter's invitation trumps yours, although I find it odd that the daughter waited till the last minute. Does she think her dad has no friends? Or does she like to exert her daughterly influence by swooping in when she feels like it?
Anyway, for me, much would depend on how the rescheduling email was worded.
If it began with "Sorry to change plans on you at the last minute" and ends with "Hope you understand," then it's far from rude.
If it was abrupt, then I think that's a red flag for how he sees you.
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