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Tonight I was with a woman I was casually dating. She had been acting funny the last few weeks, in that [her] conversations were vague. Now, there was chemistry in the first few weeks we were dating, and yes, we'd slept together a couple of times.
Now, I'm no "drive-by", meaning that I'm NOT one to sleep with a woman and then dump her. I didn't want friendzone, neither did she (or so she claims). We'd been dating since May, going out once a week, all seemed good. Pleasant conversations, kissing, etc.
A couple of weeks ago, I asked her where are we going with this. She said, "You're doing everything right...being a real man..." etc. But what raised the red flag was: "I don't want to hurt you." You see, she'd been talking to another guy, and began to get feelings for him - only, that guy friendzoned her! So she was upset over that.
So tonight, it was the ultimatum, if you will. I asked her one last time, "Do you want to continue dating or not?" And I wanted a straight Yes or No. She said, "I'm just not sure..." and with that, I said, "Goodnight!" cutting her off midsentence. She started to say something, but I said, "If you change your mind, you know where to find me, but I can't have flakiness and indecisiveness. Goodnight and good luck in your future endeavors." With that, I drove home, unfriended her, deleted her number from my phone, etc.
As mentioned, walk away, and not look back. Were my actions hasty?
I don't understand why you are/were upset about her response to your recent question. You were casually dating which means that both of you could have been dating other people. She told you two weeks earlier that she was upset over the friend zone status of the other man she was seeing. She was honest with you when you asked her if she wanted to continue dating. There is nothing wrong with your choice of not wanting to continue seeing her. You asked her a question and became rude by cutting her off mid sentence because you didn't like how she was about to answer. Your actions did appear to be a bit hasty and immature.
Would it have been more mature for you to have listened, said good night, good luck in her future endeavors and drive home, unfriend her and delete her number?
I don't understand why you are/were upset about her response to your recent question. You were casually dating which means that both of you could have been dating other people. She told you two weeks earlier that she was upset over the friend zone status of the other man she was seeing. She was honest with you when you asked her if she wanted to continue dating. There is nothing wrong with your choice of not wanting to continue seeing her. You asked her a question and became rude by cutting her off mid sentence because you didn't like how she was about to answer. Your actions did appear to be a bit hasty and immature.
Would it have been more mature for you to have listened, said good night, good luck in her future endeavors and drive home, unfriend her and delete her number?
Okay, so I was a bit hasty! BTW, she texted me today, asked how I'm doing. I still haven't answered.
You did the right thing. I personally would've cut it off when she was pursuing the other guy, but you EVENTUALLY did what you needed to do. RESPECT!
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