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I've been in a relationship with this girl for 4 months now. The first 3 months (honeymoon phase) was AMAZING. We got along so well, despite some minor arguments. It was fantastic and we started exchanging "I love you's" after the first 2 months. We have great physical chemistry and look and feel great for each other.
For the past 2 weeks, it's been really rocky. I've been struggling with insecurity/jealousy issues that I bring up to her, which ends up annoying her and turns into an argument. We've fought big like this before, but she's always come back and we ended up being normal again. Just last week, she started changing, becoming really cold on me, not saying she loves me, and just felt different. After 2 days of trying to yank it out of her, she finally told me what was really wrong: she still had feelings for her ex of a year ago, but insisted that it meant nothing and that she was just getting confused, she does not want to get back with him.
After she revealed what was really bothering her, we got back to normal for a bit, but it still wasn't 100% the same, which was okay with me. However, 2 days ago we had a fight because she went out with her friends late at night and she didn't text me when she got home, which she usually does. I called her at 2AM wondering where she was (I was worried about her), and she woke up angry of course, telling me I don't need to worry about her. The next day I gave her space and didn't message her at all. Today we talked on the phone and she was still angry about it, saying that she doesn't want this at all and that it's too serious for her.
She's right at the fact that we've been arguing so much lately, but I want to save this relationship because I believe all our arguments is just out of bad luck or bad timing. I know we can get back to normal again, like how it was before. Nothing has changed in me, but I just hope it's not too late for her. I know she still cares because she still messaged me even when I was trying to give her space, but I just don't know if she still cares enough to work on it.
Is this worth fighting for still?
Dump her, asap, be the first to dump her!
She used you as a rebound, and it did not work.
It's been day 3 since the breakup and I feel worse than I did day 1 and 2. This is so bad. I can't stop thinking about it. All I want to do is sleep because at least my dreams are more pleasant than reality.
How can you put up with that?
How old is she? 14?
I think she needs a therapist.
Just go out and find a new and normal person.
Do not wallow in self pity:
Get drunk, Mourn for the last time, Look around and MOVE ON.
I am still in mourning. It's going to be a while for me to be normal again. This is just so bad, especially since it ended so badly and there's like no chance of us talking again. I don't know why I feel so broken, but I do. I shouldn't feel like this since I've handled tougher situations. My god, I don't know what I can do.
I've been in a relationship with this girl for 4 months now. The first 3 months (honeymoon phase) was AMAZING. We got along so well, despite some minor arguments. It was fantastic and we started exchanging "I love you's" after the first 2 months. We have great physical chemistry and look and feel great for each other.
For the past 2 weeks, it's been really rocky.
Is this worth fighting for still?
This thing we call love is really just intense feelings caused by a chemical reaction in the brain. When we meet someone who sparks our interest, a strong chemical reaction forms in our brains. We refer to this as having "chemistry" for the other person.
This chemistry is very intense initially. It clouds our judgment by not allowing us to see the other person's flaws. You are deaf and blind to everything as you are swept up in the euphoria. It's like being on a roller coaster ride together. She can do no wrong. She is "perfect" in your eyes. You are "drunk in love."
Eventually the intensity fades as the brain chemicals are reabsorbed. Once the intensity fades, everything comes into focus and she realizes she's not that into you anymore.
This usually coincides with her meeting someone else who sparks her interest and the cycle repeats itself.
You never were in love. You both had intense feelings for each other initially. But the chemistry has since faded.
Day 4. I definitely feel much worse than the first breakup. It's funny, 2 days after the first breakup I was actually feeling better, but this is so much worse.
Day 4. I definitely feel much worse than the first breakup. It's funny, 2 days after the first breakup I was actually feeling better, but this is so much worse.
It is going to be like that. Eventually you will start to feel better. I know it is difficult, however, it is a good time to get active. Find something to keep your mind off of the breakup. Physical activity is good. Or something to fill your time works.
Day 4. I definitely feel much worse than the first breakup. It's funny, 2 days after the first breakup I was actually feeling better, but this is so much worse.
4 days? Of course you feel bad. It takes 6 months to feel pretty much normal again.
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