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“So do we pass the ghosts that haunt us later in our lives; they sit undramatically by the roadside like poor beggars, and we see them only from the corners of our eyes, if we see them at all. The idea that they have been waiting there for us rarely crosses our minds. Yet they do wait, and when we have passed, they gather up their bundles of memory and fall in behind, treading in our footsteps and catching up, little by little.”
Stephen King.
I do feel for you OP, but I don't think it's healthy to feel the way you do.
There is a way to move on, there always is. You just haven't found it yet.
As a start, stop focussing on your ex. Stop focussing on how empty you feel your life is without them, and start to think instead about how good it actually is.
After so long, I'd consider counselling if you can get it.
You are dwelling on the past and potentially depriving yourself of a future.
Time to start letting go.
Has anyone else ever experienced this kind of long range mourning post-breakup? Is there anyway beyond "time" to get over someone? Are there people out there who just never move on??
Yes. You are not alone. There are people who are unsure of themselves after a breakup. A breakup is a loss. We mourn the loss of a relationship just as we do when a loved one dies. The 5 steps of the grieving process are 1. Denial & Isolation, 2. Anger, 3. Bargaining, 4. Depression, and 5. Acceptance. You're still at the 1st step.
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