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He does NOT:
Share common interests
Call me during the day
Ask about my day
Ask about my interests
Focus or listen when I talk about me
Take me on actual dates
Want to watch movies I like
Want to go places/do things only I like
What about you? Do you d any of those things for him?
He is into the relationship as much as he can be. The cons you listed are just him. You have to decide if the cons are ok for you in a relationship because that's probably all you are going to get.
What about you? Do you d any of those things for him?
Yes on all of these. And yes I think my efforts outweigh his on an emotional level. Some responses on here are absolutely brilliant, some responses are defensive as though I am complaining about something. I'm merely stating facts objectively to get an objective answer to my question. Doesn't mean I don't appreciate the things he does do, and I especially appreciate them because like one person stated, I never set any expectations...I didn't ask for anything. I wanted to date this person and see them for who they really were, not change someone and make demands.
My takeaway is that the defensive people on this thread think this guy is going above & beyond because they are similar to him, they show love through these similar actions or prefer to receive love this way, and may think I'm high maintenance, needy or take it for granted. But some people need to receive love in a more direct emotional way, like me. Doesn't make one better than the other, they're just different and perhaps not compatible with each other.
Many of you said he's not faking, this is just who he is and I think you're right. I've got to decide if I can live with it long term. I really appreciate ALL of the responses on here, you all have given me AMAZING advice and perspective.
The best way to find if a guy is into you is to NOT have sex with him until you have been going out with him for awhile. But women these days share their bodies way too quickly and then come on to forums asking "does he just want me for the sex". I truly feel the majority of men will never turn down sex no matter how they feel about the woman.
The best way to find if a guy is into you is to NOT have sex with him until you have been going out with him for awhile. But women these days share their bodies way too quickly and then come on to forums asking "does he just want me for the sex". I truly feel the majority of men will never turn down sex no matter how they feel about the woman.
I completely agree with this statement but it's off point in relation to my situation since I wasn't looking for a relationship up front.
I'd venture to say he is legit ........probably just a horrible listener. Many people have to actively work on their listening skills because it doesn't come naturally to them.
I think he should be on here asking whether or not to dump you...
LOL, I was thinking the same.
It was HER who initiated the casual sex. Now they are BF/GF, but it is still not enough for her.
Is she expecting a marriage proposal or what? It is her who is using sex to get into a marriage, not the other way around.
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