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After having a pretty bad experience w/a guy who said he was interested, then faded, I'm just trying to make sure I don't get into the same trap. I met a guy online and we have video chatted. We really like each other and one day plan on visiting one another. The thing I want to make sure is that he is genuinely interested. Once in awhile he doesn't text back for hours, usually he apologizes or I send him one text to see what is up w/him (I haven't said anything about his slow responses).
Yesterday it took him a couple hours because he was trying to get his net to work to video chat w/me. Sometimes when I'm dealing w/a problem, I get very engrossed and frustrated. He apologized and today again after texting a bit back and forth, no response for over 5 hours. He isn't working today. Bad sign or not? We are always sending each other texts to make each other laugh and flirty ones. There was one instance where he thought he sent the text, but didn't.
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There is no man on the planet who will maintain the frequency of texting that starts the relationship. It doesn't happen. The number of texts WILL dwindle.
Unfortunately, the fact that you got ghosted on last time doesn't mean it won't happen again and again and again.
And it is impossible to use that as a measurement of his interest. Impossible. You just have to wait until he gets in touch with you.
After having a pretty bad experience w/a guy who said he was interested, then faded, I'm just trying to make sure I don't get into the same trap. I met a guy online and we have video chatted. We really like each other and one day plan on visiting one another. The thing I want to make sure is that he is genuinely interested. Once in awhile he doesn't text back for hours, usually he apologizes or I send him one text to see what is up w/him (I haven't said anything about his slow responses).
Yesterday it took him a couple hours because he was trying to get his net to work to video chat w/me. Sometimes when I'm dealing w/a problem, I get very engrossed and frustrated. He apologized and today again after texting a bit back and forth, no response for over 5 hours. He isn't working today. Bad sign or not? We are always sending each other texts to make each other laugh and flirty ones. There was one instance where he thought he sent the text, but didn't.
So you haven't actually met? You're just texting? It's not really a relationship till you meet. People ghost all the time online, so try not to get overly invested till you actually meet in person. Set up a date asap.
You're also sounding quite needy. Perhaps have some other things to focus on so you are not counting down the number of hours since his last text. Most people can't be texting 24/7.
Sorry, but like I always say, it's not a 'relationship' if two people never meet in person.
Who also has the time to text each other day and night constantly? I'd get seriously annoyed if someone I never met expected me to, as if I was a relationship partner.
Save the texting, and if one is serious about another person, plan to meet them in person first before thinking it's a 'relationship.'
Sorry, but like I always say, it's not a 'relationship' if two people never meet in person.
Who also has the time to text each other day and night constantly? I'd get seriously annoyed if someone I never met expected me to, as if I was a relationship partner.
Save the texting, and if one is serious about another person, plan to meet them in person first before thinking it's a 'relationship.'
I agree.
The guy probably has a life. When his life gets in the way of your text messages well... Life trumps texts.
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Sorry, but like I always say, it's not a 'relationship' if two people never meet in person.
Who also has the time to text each other day and night constantly? I'd get seriously annoyed if someone I never met expected me to, as if I was a relationship partner.
Save the texting, and if one is serious about another person, plan to meet them in person first before thinking it's a 'relationship.'
I am open to dating guys closer, but I have yet to find one. Does that show lack of interest though, if the guy is conversing w/you every day?
No it doesn't show lack of interest. It shows that he has a life beyond immediately responding to EVERY single text he receives.
Before texting or cell phones existed people had to use actual land lines to communicate. Sometimes there were expensive long distance charges that necessitated less frequent contact with a loved one.
Personally I think the expectation that all texts be responded to promptly is unrealistic. Being plugged in 24/7 is not healthy and stress inducing.
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