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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by Metaphysique
For those who aren't opposed to ONS, it's just something that happens, typically following a date, and not something they have to mull over or weigh the pros and cons before the opportunity presents itself.
Exactly. It just happens. Its a result of going with the flow while having a good time.
I can't say to much bc it's not allowed on the forum, plus I don't want to go into details, but basically the reason is physical feelings I have been having lately. I don't know why it's just my body I guess.
It's everyone's body, that's one of the motivations for dating
If your wanting to do this is outweighing your guilt for thinking about it, and you decide to...
Use protection.
Don't pick someone who lives in your same small town.
Do you have a male friend that is a FWB candidate?
I do agree this may not be the best thing for you, but only you can learn from your experiences, it's just not the same as someone else telling you not to.
As someone who grew up in a Christian environment (weekly church and Christian school from elementary to part college), I know what you are going through.
I used to always say/think "no sex before marriage". I even said this to my ex. But then, I put myself in a situation to be tempted and I was actually the one who put it in motion lol. I did think of having a ONS before, just to get it out of my system already, meaning have meaningless sex to lose my virginity. I didn't go through with the idea. I'm glad I didn't.
I'm married now and I now understand the benefits of saving it for marriage. Experience with another guy isn't beneficial to me because my husband just tells me what he likes or doesn't like. It doesn't matter what the other guys enjoyed or not, so what's the point? At the same time, I know what I like or don't and my husband helps me explore that...so it's not like I wouldn't have known had I not been with the other guys. This train of thought is not everyone's cup of tea, but it really does have its benefits, at least I know that now lol. It has nothing to do with religion actually. It's the mental state/reasoning behind it. Well, at least IMO.
If you want to have ONS because you're just horny, fine. Do it. You go girl! But like everyone said, it may not be the best for you, mentally speaking.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by Petunia 100
Which is a shame, because it leads to people getting married too quickly to just anyone so they can have sex and not feel guilty about it.
100% agree. After growing up in church, you can tell who married early just to get their rocks off. My attitude was always I'd rather spend 15 minutes telling God I'm sorry for hitting it without a ring than a year divorcing someone just because I had to have it and ended up marrying someone crazy to get it.
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