Husband Needs Advice from a Married Women (attractiveness, attractive, sexy)
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Originally Posted by Howest2008 View Post
These three things happens when a wife is having a romp in the hay with some outside men/man.
1. The SEX between the husband and wife gets two , three , four times better....
2. The wife makes up her mind on which man to keep , long before the husband forces her to choose.
3.If she chooses you as my wife did by picking me , she will very cleverly give you this message , it's cheater to keep her !!!!
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exit82[/b];45485701]cheaper too.....................-until she repeats the cycle with the next dude that pays her attention- but whatever it's your life
It's my life , and also the life of Three African American Kids , remember we are the race where the father or sperm donor refuses to stick around for the sake of the kids. I'm 64 years Young but look 34 years Young and by the way my youngest child just turned 18 year young and is a Freshman in College ( Mission Accomplished ) don't you think???My wife has a lot of Medical Problem ( One ) being that she lost a leg to Cancer , Lost A ( Kidney to Kidney disease ) , Diabetes , Systematic Lupus ... And I promised that I would stick around until my retirement at 65 Years Young , but if I can keep my hands off of other women , I think that i will be there a little longer to make sure she can handle life by herself.....
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And she don't thing I see this because she having all this crazy sex with me.Believe I love it,but I no way feel the same about our relations anymore,no matter how great it is,because I know the a plan behind it.Also now shes going to her ob/gyn Dr.this week.So now I really cant wait to see the out-come of this.I hope she happy in her life of lies.
Dude. She could be spreading an STD to you. Dump that skank.
No Iam not ignoring your advice,thanks for it,dont be mad,I,am really weighting everything out.Yesterday was a bad day for me,I checked where she had the baby test at,and it was gone,she was done her period,and she tested herself again,I torn the trash bags up and looked everywere,conldnt find it,she went out and took it with her the throw out somewhere else,she really sneaky that way,so no matter how hard I was watching she still put one over on me.Now what?
Does she have any close girlfriends, cousins, any co-worker women that she might be close with?
Reason I'm asking, maybe there is a reason she has that pregnancy test kit, other then for herself.
However, if it were me, I'd sit down and discuss this with her and let her know you saw it. If she lies and tries to say it was never there, hun, you've got a huge problem on your hands.
There is no hurt like the one your now experiencing, the person you trusted with your heart, has been disloyal to you. God as my witness, I never want to feel that kind of hurt again...awful....
You don't want to believe it, yet, your gut feelings tell you it's true. It can be a dangerous mind game...so I'd get into counseling quickly. Your going to need help dealing with this, mentally.
Only you can decide what to do...you've gotten many ideas from this thread, from many different people.
Take your time, and make certain, you know what the truth of all of this is....
When your discussing this with her, you can also ask her about going to a counselor with you ...if you feel you want to go forward with her?
Some people can, some can't, but if you do, make certain it's what you really "are able" to do...me, I don't know if I could ever trust that person again?
When you ask her about the test, if she lies, well then, I would feel there is no hope. Then me, I would leave, and get myself into counselling for a few months to help you get thru this.
If she doesn't lie about it, and tells you the truth, that there is another man, and you wish to stay with her, then demand that the only way that will happen if you both go to counseling together, b/c you have to find out why she cheated. Maybe it had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her.
I think when we find out our spouse was cheating, the first thing we do is blame ourselves...which isn't always the case. So, think about these things...
Also, please note, there is nothing worse then someone who lies to you...it is an infidelity to do so.
Does she have any close girlfriends, cousins, any co-worker women that she might be close with?
Reason I'm asking, maybe there is a reason she has that pregnancy test kit, other then for herself.
However, if it were me, I'd sit down and discuss this with her and let her know you saw it. If she lies and tries to say it was never there, hun, you've got a huge problem on your hands.
There is no hurt like the one your now experiencing, the person you trusted with your heart, has been disloyal to you. God as my witness, I never want to feel that kind of hurt again...awful....
You don't want to believe it, yet, your gut feelings tell you it's true. It can be a dangerous mind game...so I'd get into counseling quickly. Your going to need help dealing with this, mentally.
Only you can decide what to do...you've gotten many ideas from this thread, from many different people.
Take your time, and make certain, you know what the truth of all of this is....
When your discussing this with her, you can also ask her about going to a counselor with you ...if you feel you want to go forward with her?
Some people can, some can't, but if you do, make certain it's what you really "are able" to do...me, I don't know if I could ever trust that person again?
When you ask her about the test, if she lies, well then, I would feel there is no hope. Then me, I would leave, and get myself into counselling for a few months to help you get thru this.
If she doesn't lie about it, and tells you the truth, that there is another man, and you wish to stay with her, then demand that the only way that will happen if you both go to counseling together, b/c you have to find out why she cheated. Maybe it had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with her.
I think when we find out our spouse was cheating, the first thing we do is blame ourselves...which isn't always the case. So, think about these things...
Also, please note, there is nothing worse then someone who lies to you...it is an infidelity to do so.
WOW! Thank you so much for the great advice,and nice post,the answer is no to all of the above about the girlfriends or relatives,co,workers,non of that.So its going to be time soon to sit down with her this coming week and have the talk that Iam so scarced to have,because she going to the ob/gyn Dr.And Iam going to see if she is getting the birth control pills that I know shes been looking into.So I made mind up next week is when All will be out.I will keep everyone posted on here.Thanks again for the great post.Nice of you to care so much.Take care
One thing I've learned in my life is if you allow people to treat you like dirt, they will and will continue to do so as long as you let them.
Be strong! You deserve the truth! You deserve a loyal partner. Keep telling yourself that. Don't let her turn you into a marshmallow! If you don't take a stand now you will be miserable when you deserve to be happy!
Well Iam hear for my update like I promised.And Like I feared and losing so much sleep over.And my last couple weeks of non-stop detective work has made my so tired,and really worse,And its really hard trying to be at so many places at one time ,and work,trying to see if she is going to cheat.She is just so good at hiding this stuff.But in turn she treats me so good ,like the perfect wife.But all along she has this secret life of seeing other men.I still to this day,and all the great advice I have gotten on here,I just cant believe that she can pull this off so perfect.I finally had the sit down with her today,about the Pregnancy Test,and about the texting,and cell phone calls,and hours being others places and that shes not there when I look for her.And just like I thought my worse fears,she lied about all of it,she looked me right in eye. And had perfect answers for everything.I begged her to please just be honest and we can work out everything,because I love her so much,and I don't want to lose 31 years of being married.Shes my whole life.She still just told me a great story for every question,,,,WOW!How do I beat this?Theres really nothing that can do,just leave.How s that solve this.Iam really in a corner in this.Iam a real coward,sissy-boy,for putting up with this.
Well Iam hear for my update like I promised.And Like I feared and losing so much sleep over.And my last couple weeks of non-stop detective work has made my so tired,and really worse,And its really hard trying to be at so many places at one time ,and work,trying to see if she is going to cheat.She is just so good at hiding this stuff.But in turn she treats me so good ,like the perfect wife.But all along she has this secret life of seeing other men.I still to this day,and all the great advice I have gotten on here,I just cant believe that she can pull this off so perfect.I finally had the sit down with her today,about the Pregnancy Test,and about the texting,and cell phone calls,and hours being others places and that shes not there when I look for her.And just like I thought my worse fears,she lied about all of it,she looked me right in eye. And had perfect answers for everything.I begged her to please just be honest and we can work out everything,because I love her so much,and I don't want to lose 31 years of being married.Shes my whole life.She still just told me a great story for every question,,,,WOW!How do I beat this?Theres really nothing that can do,just leave.How s that solve this.Iam really in a corner in this.Iam a real coward,sissy-boy,for putting up with this.
Wow. This would make me doubt my own perceptions. She's really smooth! She had explanations for everything? For the pregnancy test, for not being where she said she was on so many occasions?
Did you tell us earlier that sex with her suddenly got a lot better, more exciting? Is that when you think she started an affair? Was it a bit after that, when you started noticing she couldn't be found in places she said she had gone?
Wow, OP. Words fail me. I guess she's now left you with no choice but to divorce, if you're sure about your interpretation of the situation. Consider getting some counseling for yourself, so you'll have someone to talk to about all this. This is traumatic.
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