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Sorry, don't believe it. The only way a "very attractive" guy would hardly get any swipes would be if his photos are unflattering or offensive or he wrote something that was unflattering or offensive. I can't speak to the reshuffling process because I've deleted and recreated my account many times and that gives you a fresh start as far as I know.
...or if his profile is never circulated because Tinder doesn't circulate non-premium guys once they've been on for a year.
...or if his profile is never circulated because Tinder doesn't circulate non-premium guys once they've been on for a year.
So delete your Tinder profile every month and start over again. I've seen many of the same guys several times and I doubt it's because they're premium members. Or you could buy a membership. But hey, there's really no point if men swipe right on everyone and women swipe right on no one.
As a female, I don't swipe right on many men, only on ones I would actually be interested in talking to for potential dating purposes. This would seem like sort of a Duh thing, because why else would one swipe right? But apparently, that's not the case for guys.
This past week, I matched with 8 guys. One I matched with the last time I was on a year ago (he never spoke to me then, and this time, he closed the match within a few hours without speaking as well). I do prefer that the man take the lead and message first, but after a day or so with no messages, I decided to go ahead and message 4 of the remaining 7. (I didn't message all of them because I anticipated actually talking to some of them, and I don't like talking to more than 2 at a time.) Two of them didn't reply at all, one replied once, then I replied back, and then he closed out the match. The last remaining guy and I sent a couple of messages back and forth about how we knew our one mutual friend, and then he dropped off of communication.
What exactly is the point of swiping right on someone if you don't actually intend on talking to someone? Is it just a numbers game to see how many girls think you're cute? Do you not really want to date, but are passing time in boredom? WHAT IS IT?!?
"low match rates — the average guy’s is just .6 percent"
And mine is far below that. It's just not worth vetting the candidates pre-swiping. The level of rejection is not just super depressing, it's mathematically cumbersome. Since it's extremely low reward, guys like me don't want to waste the time. If women were more responsive, guys' collective behavior would likely change.
"low match rates — the average guy’s is just .6 percent"
And mine is far below that. It's just not worth vetting the candidates pre-swiping. The level of rejection is not just super depressing, it's mathematically cumbersome. Since it's extremely low reward, guys like me don't want to waste the time. If women were more responsive, guys' collective behavior would likely change.
It's not even worth swiping, if getting a match is your objective. Guys are visual. The guys I know just like looking at pics of women. That's entertainment in itself. Getting a return match is not even a concern.
It's not even worth swiping, if getting a match is your objective. Guys are visual. The guys I know just like looking at pics of women. That's entertainment in itself. Getting a return match is not even a concern.
Yeah, I think I'm done with it for now. Not that I would discourage others from checking it out if they want to. I did meet at least one seemingly decent guy on there this year.
If OP isn't getting conversations even though men have very few matches, she needs better pictures and to delete any written profile. (As SLS said, words can only wreck your chances, they won't make it.)
I've played around on Tinder a few times and, as the odds would suggest, most matches I chose had already swiped right on me, and most men did write to me.
1. Many guys literally swipe right on every girl until their swipes run out. This increases their odds of matching because it's not as easy to do so. I've been with friends that are girls and literally they will get multiple matches in a row back-to-back. This does t happen to guys and they just swipe yes and see what they catch later.
2. After swiping right on everyone any matches they get they take into account. Not all are attractive to them because they swiped on every girl. Including the overweight attractive ones so they just don't start a conversation.
3. Sometimes there's some they match with that seem boring-boring profiles.
It's not even worth swiping, if getting a match is your objective. Guys are visual. The guys I know just like looking at pics of women. That's entertainment in itself. Getting a return match is not even a concern.
I'd love a return match (that was real). If I wanted to just look at pics of women, the rest of the Internet is for that... ha ha.
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3. Sometimes there's some they match with that seem boring-boring profiles.
This too. Women's profiles are awful in general. I'd like to meet someone I had something in common with besides "I love to laugh, like to travel, and go local sports team!"
...or if his profile is never circulated because Tinder doesn't circulate non-premium guys once they've been on for a year.
Well, the only way to list this as a legitimate possibility is if this attractive man (as was previously indicated) DID get lots of swipes in the beginning, then after a year, was suddenly ignored.
1. Many guys literally swipe right on every girl until their swipes run out. This increases their odds of matching because it's not as easy to do so. I've been with friends that are girls and literally they will get multiple matches in a row back-to-back. This does t happen to guys and they just swipe yes and see what they catch later.
It wouldn't happen with women either if you guys would stop swiping right on EVERY woman. Your indiscriminate swiping behavior is the reason why women end up with so many matches.
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2. After swiping right on everyone any matches they get they take into account. Not all are attractive to them because they swiped on every girl. Including the overweight attractive ones so they just don't start a conversation.
3. Sometimes there's some they match with that seem boring-boring profiles.
That's the part that confuses me. What's the point of swiping right on women who you don't find attractive and know that it's unlikely you will change your mind about them? How does that increase your odds or make things easier for you? It's not like you have to take time to "read" their profile when you can clearly see that they are unattractive to you, yet you swipe right anyway? It's just as easy to swipe left as it is to swipe right so I don't get it.
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It's just not worth vetting the candidates pre-swiping. The level of rejection is not just super depressing, it's mathematically cumbersome. Since it's extremely low reward, guys like me don't want to waste the time. If women were more responsive, guys' collective behavior would likely change.
