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Agreed. There were a few guys on Tinder who wrote something along the lines of "This is Tinder, not eHarmony/Match." As if writing that is going to make women who aren't looking for hookups change their minds.
I read a great article about this where the female author basically says men need to stop saying this to women because not all women on Tinder are looking for sex. That Tinder is for whatever people want to use it for.
I don't have OP's problem, however, I find it amusing that there's a bunch of men in here acting smug or like the women they match with are beneath them. Let's see- if you have reached the point of such desperation that you are swiping right on literally everything and anything that has a tinder profile- you don't get to throw stones.
OP said she has matched with several people just over the past few days, while still being selective of who she swipes on. That means she has a hell of a lot more matches than many of the male posters here who have bragged about using the "swipe right on everything" technique (most of whom complain about never getting matches). Newsflash: if someone regularly gets several matches, and you hardly ever get any- YOU ARE NOT OUT OF THEIR LEAGUE. They are out of yours. Pretty simple math.
I read a great article about this where the female author basically says men need to stop saying this to women because not all women on Tinder are looking for sex. That Tinder is for whatever people want to use it for.
It's absurd that people think Tinder is just for hookups. As a millennial I find it so baffling. I feel like it's either 1) wishful thinking 2) older people who don't really understand the nature of tinder, since it's kind of a very "physical appearance based" dating site, and hence have gone ahead and labelled it a hookup sight.
I don't think I have a single girlfriend that hooked up with a dude she met on tinder for a one night stand. Not saying those women don't exist- but I definitely don't think they're the majority of users or that the number of those occurrences would outpace those on other dating sites.
I don't have OP's problem, however, I find it amusing that there's a bunch of men in here acting smug or like the women they match with are beneath them. Let's see- if you have reached the point of such desperation that you are swiping right on literally everything and anything that has a tinder profile- you don't get to throw stones.
OP said she has matched with several people just over the past few days, while still being selective of who she swipes on. That means she has a hell of a lot more matches than many of the male posters here who have bragged about using the "swipe right on everything" technique (most of whom complain about never getting matches). Newsflash: if someone regularly gets several matches, and you hardly ever get any- YOU ARE NOT OUT OF THEIR LEAGUE. They are out of yours. Pretty simple math.
No, what it means is you are FEMALE. Pretty simple concept.
I don't know why women are so shocked by this it's been like this since the beginning of time lol.
The thing that shocks us women is that we find it hard to believe that men don't know how inappropriate, creepy, and downright scary their behavior is when it comes to women and sex. A lot of men feel entitled and feel it is ok to solicit women for sex like it's no big deal. It is unwelcomed most of the time.
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It's absurd that people think Tinder is just for hookups. As a millennial I find it so baffling. I feel like it's either 1) wishful thinking 2) older people who don't really understand the nature of tinder, since it's kind of a very "physical appearance based" dating site, and hence have gone ahead and labelled it a hookup sight.
That's the perception because that is what it was, and what it was promoted as, when it came onto the market about 4 years ago or so.
That's the perception because that is what it was, and what it was promoted as, when it came onto the market about 4 years ago or so.
Regardless of whether it was intended to be a Grindr spinoff, it was never going to be like Grindr because women don't act like men on Grindr.
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