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As a female, I don't swipe right on many men, only on ones I would actually be interested in talking to for potential dating purposes. This would seem like sort of a Duh thing, because why else would one swipe right? But apparently, that's not the case for guys.
This past week, I matched with 8 guys. One I matched with the last time I was on a year ago (he never spoke to me then, and this time, he closed the match within a few hours without speaking as well). I do prefer that the man take the lead and message first, but after a day or so with no messages, I decided to go ahead and message 4 of the remaining 7. (I didn't message all of them because I anticipated actually talking to some of them, and I don't like talking to more than 2 at a time.) Two of them didn't reply at all, one replied once, then I replied back, and then he closed out the match. The last remaining guy and I sent a couple of messages back and forth about how we knew our one mutual friend, and then he dropped off of communication.
What exactly is the point of swiping right on someone if you don't actually intend on talking to someone? Is it just a numbers game to see how many girls think you're cute? Do you not really want to date, but are passing time in boredom? WHAT IS IT?!?
I hope this doesn't come off as sexist but I this but I think men tend to cast a much wider net of initial possiblities than women do. They tend to try to pull aside (figuratively speaking in this case) lots of women to glance over without any one woman being a serious "I want to talk to her and get to know her."
As a female, I don't swipe right on many men, only on ones I would actually be interested in talking to for potential dating purposes. This would seem like sort of a Duh thing, because why else would one swipe right? But apparently, that's not the case for guys.
This past week, I matched with 8 guys. One I matched with the last time I was on a year ago (he never spoke to me then, and this time, he closed the match within a few hours without speaking as well). I do prefer that the man take the lead and message first, but after a day or so with no messages, I decided to go ahead and message 4 of the remaining 7. (I didn't message all of them because I anticipated actually talking to some of them, and I don't like talking to more than 2 at a time.) Two of them didn't reply at all, one replied once, then I replied back, and then he closed out the match. The last remaining guy and I sent a couple of messages back and forth about how we knew our one mutual friend, and then he dropped off of communication.
What exactly is the point of swiping right on someone if you don't actually intend on talking to someone? Is it just a numbers game to see how many girls think you're cute? Do you not really want to date, but are passing time in boredom? WHAT IS IT?!?
I am a married guy that never did OLD so I may be way off base here, but I get the impression from my youngest brother and some other guys I know that use Tinder that many people use the app for anonymous hookups, and that any mention of dating or longer term relationships causes them to immediately break contact. If this is true, mention of a mutual friend or a shared social circle would be an absolute kiss of death for a guy looking for some anonymous action.
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I'm super confused, so please enlighten me.
As a female, I don't swipe right on many men, only on ones I would actually be interested in talking to for potential dating purposes. This would seem like sort of a Duh thing, because why else would one swipe right? But apparently, that's not the case for guys.
This past week, I matched with 8 guys. One I matched with the last time I was on a year ago (he never spoke to me then, and this time, he closed the match within a few hours without speaking as well). I do prefer that the man take the lead and message first, but after a day or so with no messages, I decided to go ahead and message 4 of the remaining 7. (I didn't message all of them because I anticipated actually talking to some of them, and I don't like talking to more than 2 at a time.) Two of them didn't reply at all, one replied once, then I replied back, and then he closed out the match. The last remaining guy and I sent a couple of messages back and forth about how we knew our one mutual friend, and then he dropped off of communication.
What exactly is the point of swiping right on someone if you don't actually intend on talking to someone? Is it just a numbers game to see how many girls think you're cute? Do you not really want to date, but are passing time in boredom? WHAT IS IT?!?
I use a similar app to Tinder. I will usually swipe right at first to be open minded and see if I get any bites. Then if I get any matches, I will scrutinize closer to see if I'm attracted to them or not. If I'm not I will unmatch. I have intention of at least exploring talking to the women but I try to be sensitive not to get their hopes up too much.
BTW I've had women do the same thing to me, this is NOT just a man thing.
As a female, I don't swipe right on many men, only on ones I would actually be interested in talking to for potential dating purposes. This would seem like sort of a Duh thing, because why else would one swipe right? But apparently, that's not the case for guys.
This past week, I matched with 8 guys. One I matched with the last time I was on a year ago (he never spoke to me then, and this time, he closed the match within a few hours without speaking as well). I do prefer that the man take the lead and message first, but after a day or so with no messages, I decided to go ahead and message 4 of the remaining 7. (I didn't message all of them because I anticipated actually talking to some of them, and I don't like talking to more than 2 at a time.) Two of them didn't reply at all, one replied once, then I replied back, and then he closed out the match. The last remaining guy and I sent a couple of messages back and forth about how we knew our one mutual friend, and then he dropped off of communication.
What exactly is the point of swiping right on someone if you don't actually intend on talking to someone? Is it just a numbers game to see how many girls think you're cute? Do you not really want to date, but are passing time in boredom? WHAT IS IT?!?
They just do it for fun. Getting a match on tinder does not mean that they actually want to talk to you or meet you.
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