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today - i asked her that because i wanted to see if it was as heartbreaking for her , as it was to me, to realise that we were going to have to split up.
(for example, doctors usually suggest amnio to AMA mothers)
Incidental, but my understanding is that this is actually a downward trend, speaking from my experience with my doctors with a recent AMA pregancy. Amniocentesis is more typically avoided, now, if at all possible, in favor of other, less invasive diagnostic measures. Amnio was never on the table, for me, due to heightened risk of miscarriage. Same with chorionic vilius sampling, which is increasingly being contraindicated due to heightened risk of birth defects caused by the procedure. In many cases, genetic testing via maternal blood draw has superceded both of these, because it's less invasive and doesn't come with the fetal harm risk.
I have never been hugely keen on becoming a father myself.
We dated and i think each of us thought that the other person would end up coming round. I even went to see a counsellor 4 times to get to the root of why i am not family orientated
Have i just made a huge mistake?
You did not make a huge mistake. Fatherhood is serious biz, you are responsible for another's life etc etc, and if you're not all in at age 41, 18 months with the girl, and 4 counseling sessions......I highly doubt it's going to suddenly become your thing.
Let's see: she would force her husband to have 10 kids or else. She calls a lack of desire on the OPs part to parent selfish because his GF didn't agree, when it is a massive life decision.
Wrong on both counts.
Again, you are only hearing one side of this "story". Nothing is as black and white as the OP is making it to be. His tale keeps growing with each reply.
Not only did you waste your time, but you wasted one and a half years of what that woman's body considers the last few fertile years of her life.
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