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"I KNOW that it would have never worked either way though, and it's just the way things had to be."
Wolf - that is the one thought i am using to get over her. She would not have been happy with my childfree life, and i would have not been happy to be a parent.
We would have split anyway had we compromised.
But then when i think about her and how amazing we felt around each other - that is so hard to forget . I wish i knew if she is even a little bit upset.
Well I'm just going to play Devils advocate because there are some things you haven't properly explained..You are saying you wouldn't be happy with a child but you've never had one, so how would you know? Do you not like children? How exactly do you know you wouldn't enjoy being a father?
"I KNOW that it would have never worked either way though, and it's just the way things had to be."
Wolf - that is the one thought i am using to get over her. She would not have been happy with my childfree life, and i would have not been happy to be a parent.
We would have split anyway had we compromised.
But then when i think about her and how amazing we felt around each other - that is so hard to forget . I wish i knew if she is even a little bit upset.
One thing. Are you sure you loved her when you think so lowly of her that you think she's heartless and doesn't care at all about the break-up? You honestly think she's blocked you and is laughing and out partying it up with single friends and other men? You don't seem to think much of her humanity, if your mind first goes to her having no feelings about this.
She probably is upset. She told you she didn't feel she'd love another man the way she loved you. BUT she knows you are both on different pages. So she's doing what has to be done, which is breaking up, and cutting you off. She blocked you probably BECAUSE she cared. She knew she would never get over you or move on if she kept you in her life, and kept up contact. So she's going cold turkey to begin her healing process. Keeping you in her life would only keep things in neutral and going back and forth, thus losing even more time to be meeting a decent man to have children with.
My dad has always been present and caring in my life. We get along great. I only know that he didn't originally want children because my mom told me. Of course, he didn't want any more so that's why I'm an only child.
That's great that he came to value you and be there for you even though he didn't want kids in the beginning. Some people can do that. Lot of horror stories of the opposite though.
"I KNOW that it would have never worked either way though, and it's just the way things had to be."
Wolf - that is the one thought i am using to get over her. She would not have been happy with my childfree life, and i would have not been happy to be a parent.
We would have split anyway had we compromised.
But then when i think about her and how amazing we felt around each other - that is so hard to forget . I wish i knew if she is even a little bit upset.
When women end the relationship they tend to move on very quickly and tend to block things out better than men. She'll be trying to find someone right away because the clock is ticking and there's no time for brooding. She'll be on dating sites etc.
She may have only been playing the part of the perfect girlfriend (i.e. soul mate) to get you to wilt on having a child with her. A sperm donor basically as the child you didn't want would take precedence over you the minute it's conceived.
I don't want kids either and if the woman does then the relationship has en expiry date. Forget about soul mates, unless you meet a like minded woman who doesn't want kids either. You're not soul mates because you want fundamentally different things.
That's great that he came to value you and be there for you even though he didn't want kids in the beginning. Some people can do that. Lot of horror stories of the opposite though.
Yes, it's unfortunate. My dad was only 30 when I was born though, so the OP might be more set in his ways about not wanting children.
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. I wish i knew if she is even a little bit upset.
