The Stay at Home Wife-not the SAHM (engagement, rich, message)
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It's the same out here, the further you wanna travel the cheaper the houses get, but then all that extra commute times can start to add to stress, so you really need to play balancing act to figure out what works. We're luck in that we live fairly close to most things and my commute isn't nearly as bad as some guys, I hear stories of it taking guys 2.5 hours to get home at night due to traffic and accidents that come up.
Brutal, I wouldn't bother owning a home I'd just rent and live closer in if I had to face those kinds of daily commutes.
An hour one way here ain't no thang but a chicken wing because so many people do that and much more, depending.
The problem here is that 1.5 hrs becomes 2.5 hrs multiple times a year with snow, easily. People do it though, especially those want like a big yard.
Exactly! So you have a big yard with room for your kids to play in. Nice, since they aren't in day care. You have room for a garden - something for your wife to work in - she has time to grow part of your food, since she isn't working for a pay check. You have a decent sized piece of property to enjoy.
I get angry if my commute takes more than 30 minutes, but then I live in the Rust Belt.
You have to wonder if you can even argue quality of life if you're spending 3+ hours a day (a day!) getting to and from work.
Yep.. I agree, there's all kinds of options out there. For me peace of mind and less hassle is the order of the day, If I have to move to smaller town, live a less "expensive" life that has a lot more appeal to me than buying a 900k home and living in some kind of hip place.
I sorta have that lifestyle now, only simply because we got lucky and bought 18 years ago before everything went nuts. I pull up Zillow and there are 800k to 1.2 million dollars homes within a 1 mile from here. Not us, we bought a pretty modest condo way back when I was making less money. I don't know if I could afford our place right now if we had to buy today, haven't worked the numbers lately, but I'm wondering if we could.....
I for the life of me can't imagine how kids these days do it. I think we're in for a readjustment in lifestyles and another crash in the market, things just can't be sustainable like this forever.
I made pretty decent money and all, but damn... I'm so glad I'm at this point in my life rather than just stepping out of college and looking to start out. Sad.....
It always depends on the people, characters, income, and circumstances.
I was and would love to be a SAHW again. Others wouldn't feel full filled.
I would feel very full filled and would provide my partner with a clean home, home cooked meal, detailed car, walked dog, foot massage, good mood, and a nice BJ every day. The weekend would be fun time only and nothing to do for him at home other than have fun and relax.
I find that much better than stressed out, tired, moody and fights about who does what chore and weekends filled with errand but expensive house where nobody ever is home and lots of money we spend on restaurants, cleaning ladies, gas, cars ....
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Exactly! So you have a big yard with room for your kids to play in. Nice, since they aren't in day care. You have room for a garden - something for your wife to work in - she has time to grow part of your food, since she isn't working for a pay check. You have a decent sized piece of property to enjoy.
I agree - it's all about priorities.
True, of course the man would basically be deciding not to be part of his kid's lives if they had them, at that point. But that is the choice lots of people make, 10+ work days, 2-3 hr commutes.
And I'm not sure not being in day care is nice. I actually don't think it is.
But of course, this is about childless couples.
The real variable beyond housing prices is jobs. Can you find a job in these places that are more affordable. Some things don't cost less in low COL places too, so you can't allow yourself to be paid too little.
Assuming there are jobs there in your career. Most of these low COL places are low because there is low demand, as there are few jobs. And the jobs that are there pay very little. I generally move places (like I did SF) because that is where the jobs are. Otherwise I'd live in Wisconsin, which is much cheaper.
Not to be crappy, but that's a choice, too (and not an invalid one). But if you opt for a career field so specialized that it seriously curtails your options on where you can realistically locate, that's a decision you make knowing there are tradeoffs, just like any other.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Not to be crappy, but that's a choice, too (and not an invalid one). But if you opt for a career field so specialized that it seriously curtails your options on where you can realistically locate, that's a decision you make knowing there are tradeoffs, just like any other.
Sure, I guess. I mean, I never thought there was THAT much of a choice in careers. I've done a lot of different things for work, but what I wanted to do for a career wasn't really a choice, its the only thing that would make me happy or that I would be content doing. I know lots of people are perfectly fine being miserable at work, but while technically that is a choice, it isn't much of one, or even a realistic one, in my view.
I remember well my parents telling me from quite a young age, there is living life, and there is surviving, don't ever be content with just surviving. My mom still hammers away at that.
But if a person is fortunate enough that they don't care what they do for work, or what they want to do for work is very portable geographically without huge blows to salary, then yes, you're correct.
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