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I love my boyfriend but it is scary to me that he is 30 and didnt go back to school yet like he said he was going to and doesnt have a good job, lives with his mom, and does not have a working vehicle.This makes me worry that Im in love with someone that is lazy and isnt going to show an effort that he is trying to be an adult. I dont know how to confront him in a nice way about getting his **** together so we could start up our life. Anyone have any honest suggestions that arent nasty?
Please don't have kids, till he has his life together. That might never happen, though...
Looks like he is a lowlife, but love is blind.
Not sure about you and why you want to put up with a loser? There seem to be no future for you or your kids.
Just that you know - I tried to say it... nice, but you already knew that there is no way to sugarcoat this situation.
You also should get your own life together - stop drinking, and smoking and hanging out with sluts, drunks and druggies. Your ex was in a jail, and is on probation, but you "love him so much". (yes, I read your other posts)
Your life is a mess. And you're thinking about having kids?
Do you work or go to school? Have any skills? How you support your lifestyle?
BTW: are you talking about some other guy now? Just an hour ago you posted about a "douchebag that didnt grow up yet at 25 years old"...
There is a lot that is unexplained, he is the sweetest man I have met, hes caring and compassionate and thoughtful and was helping me in my life when he needed help in his own. I want us to build a life together even if we do struggle a little, I just dont know if there is something I can say that will motivate him to move the process along a little quicker.
I just dont know if there is something I can say that will motivate him to move the process along a little quicker.
Yes, there is something you can say that might help......"Good bye"
It might give him a big hint that he's not very good relationship material and it sounds like you may not be either so you'd be saving yourselves both a lot of grief until you mature a lot more.
Thirty years old living with mom, has crappy job, no car, no money, no education, it's lazy, and doesn't want to grow up.
But he is a sweetheart, you are in love,... and you want future and babies with him. Are you real? Or just a real mess??
Agreed, OP has several threads, presumably about the same man, dating back some time, and dealing with the same issues.
Essentially the guy is a waster, the OP is not happy and yet doesn't want to leave.
Been there, and I get it, but he isn't going to change. Stop waiting for it and wasting away your life.
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Originally Posted by LLCNYC
Lol. Between this post & the OPs last one....comical.
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