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I cheated because my husband was ignoring me, and he was addicted to internet porn. For months, he wouldn't even LOOK at me, even if I was sitting next to him naked and asking him to touch me! He was also very verbally abusive to me during this time, and I began to think of myself as worthless. I had been chatting with a guy on the internet and we got along so well, and the temptation was just too great. We only got together once, and I told my husband after it happened because I felt so guilty. That was a big mistake. I don't recommend honesty in this situation! It's been a nightmare ever since.
I cheated because my husband was ignoring me, and he was addicted to internet porn. For months, he wouldn't even LOOK at me, even if I was sitting next to him naked and asking him to touch me! He was also very verbally abusive to me during this time, and I began to think of myself as worthless. I had been chatting with a guy on the internet and we got along so well, and the temptation was just too great. We only got together once, and I told my husband after it happened because I felt so guilty. That was a big mistake. I don't recommend honesty in this situation! It's been a nightmare ever since.
Looking back, is there anything that you may have done to make him feel disconnected from you? Being alienated and then cheated on would be pretty unbearable for most men. What have you done to get back into his good books?
Stresses pulled us apart to the point that we were two passing ships in the dark. Do that long enough, it stops being a marriage and life starts to feel empty. It wasn't intentional but someone else ended up filling that emptiness.
I would be very interested to know the various common reasons why people cheat.
My ex-friend cheated on her boyfriend all the time because she was bored with him, but said she couldn't afford to live on her own. She was not a good person and I couldn't stay friends with her.
I cheated because my husband was ignoring me, and he was addicted to internet porn. For months, he wouldn't even LOOK at me, even if I was sitting next to him naked and asking him to touch me! He was also very verbally abusive to me during this time, and I began to think of myself as worthless. I had been chatting with a guy on the internet and we got along so well, and the temptation was just too great. We only got together once, and I told my husband after it happened because I felt so guilty. That was a big mistake. I don't recommend honesty in this situation! It's been a nightmare ever since.
Verbally abusive before, nightmare ever since? Sorry to hear that. I hope that your brief encounter with someone else who was interested in you allows you to realize you are not worthless and are likely a very good person.
BTW... we get this question/thread quite often here.
Most that answer will say "I have not cheated... BUT... yada yada yda" or "I know this other person...". The ones being honest about their experience generally get attacked and the thread degrades. Hence, most won't be honest. It is an opportunity for some to claim their "higher moral ground" and feel good.
In general, infidelity occurs after a long history of problems in the relationship of which both parties are to an extent culpable. I think one can expect that if you ignore your spouse long enough, infidelity and/or divorce is most likely. Not saying that's the only outcome nor the only reason... but a sure fire way to drive your spouse away.
BTW... we get this question/thread quite often here.
Most that answer will say "I have not cheated... BUT... yada yada yda" or "I know this other person...". The ones being honest about their experience generally get attacked and the thread degrades. Hence, most won't be honest. It is an opportunity for some to claim their "higher moral ground" and feel good.
In general, infidelity occurs after a long history of problems in the relationship of which both parties are to an extent culpable. I think one can expect that if you ignore your spouse long enough, infidelity and/or divorce is most likely. Not saying that's the only outcome nor the only reason... but a sure fire way to drive your spouse away.
Good post.
Because this topic has been discussed many times here, and because duplicate topics are not permitted, this thread is now closed. Off-topic posts and personal attacks have been deleted.
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