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So this cute girl and I matched on EHarmony and she check out my page first. She didn't initiate contact as most girls don't. I sent her a first contact email with the Eharmony questions. I figure I'll give her several days to respond. Would it be weird to contact her on Facebook since I found her on there? Turns out we have a mutual friend so she wasn't hard to find. I had on my Eharmony page that I prefer a non-smoker and it says she smokes daily so I'm thinking she saw this and got discouraged. I would make an exception to this rule because she is really good looking. Creepy to msg on fb or no?
Sounds like you already know what to do. Don't jump the gun, she'll respond if she's interested.
Contacting on eharmony..fine
Facebook.. creepy
making an exception because of her looks...desperate, juvenile, and shallow
If she does contact you, you should tell he you are making an exception to your smoking rule, because she is hot, it will do wonders for your budding relationship.
Hey, people make exceptions for lots of reasons. Why shouldn't hotness be included? Besides, he said he'd date a hot smoker, not a hot murderer.
And OP, while you're at it, by all means start asking that mutual friend about her. See what info you can dig up. The ladies love it when they start talking to a stranger who knows all about them. Saves them time, ya know?
Keep your contact thru eHarmony. Do NOT contact her thru Facebook. Or she may think you're stalking her!
If she's interested, she'll respond. If not, keep it moving.
And OP, while you're at it, by all means start asking that mutual friend about her. See what info you can dig up. The ladies love it when they start talking to a stranger who knows all about them. Saves them time, ya know?
I don't think messaging someone on Facebook is creepy at all. I've met a handful of girls that way, or by using a Facebook equivalent before the actual Facebook existed.
Though I do think it would be weird and creepy to message her on Facebook after seeing her on eharmony first.
Keep your contact thru eHarmony. Do NOT contact her thru Facebook. Or she may think you're stalking her!
If she's interested, she'll respond. If not, keep it moving.
Yes
This sums it up perfectly. Just messaging or adding someone on Facebook is not automatically creepy, but it is stalker-like if you do it after seeing her on eharmony.
I agree with the other comments about it being inappropriate to send a FB request like that. You initiated contact and now it's up to her to reply, or not, but not for you to find other methods to contact her.
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